Birthclub: June 2022

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Missed miscarriage 😩

I just loss my pregnancy, at 8 weeks still no cardiac activity and size is too small, idk how to cope up with this loss 😭🙏🏼

I am so sorry you're going through this. This is heartbreaking and it's completely okay to feel however you're feeling right now. Please make sure you've seen your gynae and have a clear plan for what happens next, whether it's waiting, medication, or a procedure, because you need proper medical care and support during this time. Take things one day at a time, lean on people you trust, and if the grief feels too heavy, talk to someone, whether it's a counsellor or even just a close friend or family member. Your feelings matter and you deserve care.

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How to not nurse baby to sleep

Hi mums, my baby 8 months old and still wakes up 1573527 times at night because she nurses to sleep. I am directly latching breastfeeding her. Any tips to not latch her to sleep? She wakes up every 2h or so and needs the boob to sleep. Cannot be patted or pacifier or rocked. She will cry like someone is hurting her. Please help :———)

Oh mama, I feel you so much, a few of us went through this exact thing around the 8-month mark and it is genuinely exhausting! What seemed to help was breaking the feed-to-sleep association by unlatching baby just before she fully falls asleep, so she's drowsy but still slightly awake, then letting her finish drifting off without the boob, it takes a few nights of protest but babies do catch on. Some mums in my circle swear by the "side-lying feed then gentle pull-away" method where you slowly reduce how long you let them nurse each night, so it's more gradual than going cold turkey. One of my mum friends tried doing a proper wind-down routine first, bath, dim lights, short feed, then putting baby down awake, and she said the key was being really consistent for at least a week even when baby cries, because the first two or three nights are the hardest but it usually improves after that. Hang in there, it really does get better!

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11 months old seizure

Hi parents. Anyone experience their child having seizure at 10 months old? Fever was 39.7. Can u share what happen next? I feel like I'm a bad Mom when this happened. 😪

Oh mama, please don't be hard on yourself, you did not cause this, and it does not make you a bad mum at all. Febrile seizures at this age are actually more common than people realise, and from what I've heard, they tend to happen when the fever spikes quickly, so even a super attentive parent can't always catch it in time. The most important things I've come to understand are: during the seizure, turn baby gently to the side so nothing blocks the airway, loosen any tight clothing, and stay as calm as you can (easier said than done, I know). After it stops, you can give children's paracetamol to help bring the fever down, but do head to the doctor or A&E right away, especially since this is the first time it's happened. A friend of mine went through this with her toddler and the paediatrician explained that most kids outgrow febrile seizures by age five, and if the seizures last longer than five minutes or happen more than once in 24 hours, the doctor may prescribe something to keep at home just in case. Please do check everything with your own paediatrician though, because every child is different and they can give you the best guidance for your little one. You're doing great, hang in there!

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Any reviews on Dr ng Zheng yuan from KKH?

John tee delivered my first baby but I’m considering Dr Ng Zheng Yuan for the second born. He is less experience but has a very warm and assuring vibe. Strange though I can’t find any reviews on him.

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Haha I totally understand the feeling, sometimes a doctor's vibe just clicks with you and that matters a lot, especially for your second pregnancy! From what I've heard, Dr Ng Zheng Yuan is a legitimate consultant at KKH with his MRCOG and O&G specialist accreditation since 2020, so while he may be newer compared to Dr John Tee, he's properly qualified. A friend actually mentioned that he came across as very caring and thorough with his patients, which lines up with your impression, so if you already felt that warmth during your consultation, that's usually a good sign to trust your gut!

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21 month old doesn’t listen to us

Hi Mommies, does you 21 month old child listens to you when you scold him/her? For example, my little one throw his toys when he gets bored with them then I tell him to stop but he still continue to do it. I feel frustrated. I also let him joined a class in church; other kids listen he’s the only one keep running around the room. I feel so embarrassed and stressed. He doesn’t listen :( #baby

Aiyah don't worry lah, my friend's son was exactly like this at 21 months, her paed told her this age is very normal one, their brain developing faster than their self-control. Someone in my mum WhatsApp group mentioned that at this age they don't really "disobey," they just literally cannot stop themselves yet, so scolding doesn't work well. My neighbour tried the positive discipline approach, get down to eye level, short simple words, redirect instead of just saying "no", and she said within a few weeks her boy much better already.

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Exclusively pumping

Hi mummies, Can I just ask, those who exclusively pump, do you just pump without latching baby at all, or do you let baby latch from time to time?

Mostly pump without latching, sometimes at night (1-2times a month) the eye really cannot open then latch to cheat that 10mins of extra sleep (but still need to pump if your baby don’t clear well - like mine). But I stop latching totally at 4.5m (tooth is out💀).

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Good stroller for the next one

Hi, any recommendation for a long term use stroller? Just wondering if brands like Nuna & bugaboo are good? Just want to survey2 for good stroller even when handling alone in public.

Nuna is sturdy, easy to manoeuvre and lasted us through the toddler years Bugaboo also gets a lot of love from parents I know, especially for the smooth ride and durability, but it’s definitely on the pricier side. Personally, if you’ll be handling baby alone often, I’d pay attention to weight, one-hand folding and how easy it is to get in and out of taxis/public transport. Those ended up mattering more to me than all the fancy features If budget allows, I do think both Nuna and Bugaboo are good long-term options. Maybe try them in-store first because what feels comfortable can be quite personal

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Hospital bag for NUH

Hi, 2nd time mom about to pop any day now! Can I ask what are some things you moms packed differently during your 2nd birth? Also, I breastfed my firstborn but previously did not bring anything to the hospital. Should I bring a pump or haakaa this time round? 🤔 #2ndbirth #hospitalbag #38weeks #2ndtimemom

The biggest difference for my second baby was confidence 😂 First baby I packed like I was moving house. Second baby I realised the hospital already provides quite a lot and I didn’t need half the things I brought

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Hi 2nd time mom here but having a natural labour this time. How long were you moms having painful braxton hicks going into early labour/in early labour for?

It really varies from mum to mum! With my second, I know some mums who had painful Braxton Hicks and early labour signs for just a few hours before things ramped up, while others had them on and off for days (sometimes even weeks 😅). One thing that helped me understand what was happening: Braxton Hicks are usually irregular and don't get progressively stronger or closer together. True early labour contractions tend to become more regular, longer, stronger, and closer together over time. If you're timing them and noticing a clear pattern developing, or if your waters break, baby’s movements decrease, or you're having any concerns, it's worth giving your maternity unit a call. Hope baby isn't keeping you waiting too much! 😊💕

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Engorged boobs during pregnancy

Engorged boobs since 35 weeks pregnant. This is my 2nd pregnancy and I’ve only had engorged boobs postpartum, not during pregnancy. Anybody else experiences this and what did you do to help with the pain aside from trying to get the milk out?

I experienced something similar around the third trimester too. For me, it was mostly due to hormonal changes and my body preparing for breastfeeding. The breasts felt very full, heavy, tender, and sometimes even leaked colostrum. What helped was wearing a supportive, non-underwire maternity bra, using cold compresses for swelling, and avoiding excessive stimulation or pumping unless advised by my doctor. Some mums also find warm showers and gentle breast massage helpful for discomfort. If the breast becomes red, hot, very painful, or you develop a fever, it’s worth getting checked by your doctor to rule out an infection. Otherwise, breast fullness and changes in late pregnancy can be completely normal, even if you didn’t experience it in your first pregnancy. ❤️

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