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3 m/o daughter was touched

Hi All. I am filled with so much guilt and anger as I write this and I really don’t know how to close this open unit of mine. We recently went to friend’s gathering and everybody was respectful of my baby (knowing boundaries when engaging with her, not touching her physically etc.) However, towards the end, a male acquittance of my husband was insensitive and did the following: 1. Touching baby’s left inner thigh. 2. Touching baby’s right arm. 3. Using his leg to rock the pram till my baby threw up a bit of milk. 4. Touching baby’s top part of her head. 1., 2. & 3. happened while she was in the pram and as I saw the series of events unfold, I did not have the courage to stand up for my baby and to stop him. Thereafter, I quickly carried her out of the pram and that was when 4. happened. I told my Husband what happened and he was upset that I did not sound out my discomfort to him and he couldn’t stop it in time. However, I would like to note that he was already slightly drunk at that moment and was everywhere in the function room and not easily reachable. I am filled with utmost guilt now. I feel that I didn’t protect my baby. I let 1., 2. & 3. happened and yet I still did not stand up for her. As a victim of child molestation when I was young, I feel very uncomfortable about what happened and flashbacks of what happened to my baby kept coming back. I am angry at myself and at the person, and truly disgusted by his actions. I have no way to close the open unit in me. I am beaten with guilt and my husband wouldn’t allow me to confront this acquittance. Please, I urge everyone. Regardless of the gender of your baby, if someone does something to your baby that makes you uncomfortable, stand up to the person, voice it out. Don’t be paiseh like me and let such incidents happen. I hate myself for not standing up to someone whom I might not even see anymore. My paisehness has caused hurt to my baby and I’ll forever be regretful.

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