Topik ATE Minggu Ini: Self-Care is Not Selfish —Managing Stress and Burnout as a Mother.

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Topik ATE Minggu Ini: Self-Care is Not Selfish —Managing Stress and Burnout as a Mother.
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skrg sy tgh pregnant 8 bln dan tinggal sebulan je tggu hari bersalin ank ke 5. baru je petang td sy terlepaskan amarah pd ank ke 2. sy cubit dan tarik rambut dia. punca sbb sy nmpak dia letak 1 barang pd tempat yg tak sepatutnya. sy jd bertambah baran bila tgk rumah bersepah dan suami hanya sibukkan hal2 mak dia. bertambah sakit hati bila tengok jug & cawan yg sy hidang utk kawan dia dtg mlm td masih kat luar rumah. sampah yg suami buang semalam dia hanya letak di atas tong dan bukan didalamnya. sy sgt² rimas dgn keadaan ni. normalkah sy terlepas amarah pd ank. sy rasa sgt bersalah & sedih dgn keadaan diri sendiri. takut klu perangai ni terbawa² hingga lepas bersalin. mohon semua ibu disini mendoakan sy.. 😭😭😭

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It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure right now, and it’s understandable to feel frustrated. It might help to talk to your husband and let him know how much you need support. You could say something like, "I’m feeling really stressed and need help around the house." For your child, apologizing and explaining that your anger wasn’t her fault can help. If you’re worried about this continuing after the baby is born, it could be helpful to talk to a therapist for some strategies on managing stress and anger. You’re not alone, and it's okay to ask for help. Take it one step at a time and remember to care for yourself too.

Sebagai ibu yg berkerja,burn out is real..almost semua kerja dlm rumah sy yg buat (suami membantu juga pd hujung minggu) tp setiap hari kena bangun awal siapkan makanan baby utk hantar pengasuh dan breakfast ank sekolah..setiap hari buat kerja rmh apa yg sempat shaja,jika tak sempat,sy akan buat pd hujung minggu.which is hujung minggu pn penuh dgn kerja2 rmh yg silih berganti dan memg hampir tiada masa utk diri sendiri..begitulah setiap hari dan setiap minggu😔

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It's completely understandable to feel burned out with so much on your plate. It might help to have a conversation with your husband about how you're feeling, and let him know that even though he helps on the weekends, you still need more support during the week. Maybe you can also explore small ways to take breaks, even if it's just a few minutes a day for something that feels relaxing or recharging for you. You deserve time for yourself too.

saya seorang isteri yg masih tinggal dngn mertua kandungan saya tidak lama lagi masuk 4 bulan tpi sa selalu merasa stress gara² suami tak faham ipar dn mertua x faham smua kerja dalam rumah sya yg buat x yg tolong .. apa perlu sa lakukn kdg rasa mcm sya ni orang gaji 🥲

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It’s totally understandable to feel stressed, especially during pregnancy. It might help to talk to your husband and share how overwhelmed you feel with all the housework and lack of support. You could say something like, “I’m feeling really stressed and need help around the house. It’s hard to manage everything by myself right now.” If your in-laws aren’t understanding, it’s okay to set some boundaries and ask for the help you need.

Kadang suami tak faham bila saya cakap saya penat mental, bukan fizikal je. Macam mana nak explain burnout kepada pasangan yang tak nampak ‘penat’ saya?

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It can be tough when your partner doesn’t fully understand what you're going through. You could try explaining burnout by saying something like, “I know I’m doing a lot of physical tasks, but the mental exhaustion is just as draining. When I’m mentally tired, it affects my emotions, my patience, and my overall well-being, even if I’m not showing it in the same way as physical fatigue.” You could also give examples of what mental exhaustion looks like for you—like feeling overwhelmed, unable to focus, or emotionally drained even when you're physically fine. This can help him understand that it's not just about doing tasks, but how those tasks and responsibilities are affecting your mind and emotions.

anak sy baru je meninggal.7bulan dlm perot..dan sekarang masih belum turun tanda untuk keluarkan baby.kali ni masuk 3kali sy keguguran..tapi yg ketiga paling dasyat.sebab bby da bsr dalam perot.doakan sy kuat kawan2

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to grieve and feel what you’re feeling. It’s okay to lean on others for support, whether that’s family, friends, or a counselor. It’s also important to care for yourself physically—rest, eat well, and stay hydrated. Consider talking to a therapist to help you through this, as they can provide guidance and support. Healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself. You’re not alone, and it's okay to ask for help when you need it.

I’m working from home with a toddler who doesn’t nap — it’s impossible to focus, and I feel like I’m failing at both work and motherhood. How do I cope without breaking down?

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It sounds incredibly tough to juggle both work and caring for a toddler. The first thing to remember is that you're doing your best, and it’s okay to have tough days. One way to cope is to try setting small, manageable expectations for both work and home. You could break your tasks into chunks. Maybe talk to your partner or a trusted person about creating a support system during your work hours—like asking for help with the toddler for even just a short period. Also, try to set a routine for the day that includes some time for you to recharge, even if it’s just a few minutes of breathing or stepping away for a moment. Little breaks can help you refocus and prevent burnout. Most importantly, remember that you don’t have to be perfect—it's okay to ask for help and lean on others when you need it.

suami tipu saya.Sampaikn saya dah 2 hari tak makan nasi.Hari ni seharian tak sentuh makanan.Nak tidur pun susah asyik nangis .Kerap nangis.Kawan kata tu burnout.Saya ada MDD

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I'm really sorry you're going through this. Given everything you're feeling, it's important to reach out to your doctor and let them know what you're experiencing, especially with your MDD. Talking to a therapist could also help, as they can guide you through these overwhelming emotions. Even though it might be hard, try to eat something, even if it's just a small snack—it can make a big difference. If sleep is difficult, you might try calming activities like deep breathing or listening to soothing music. And don't hesitate to talk to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend or family member—they can offer support during this tough time. Remember, you're not alone in this. Taking small steps to care for yourself can help you through it.

mental health sy down sbb sikap suami...apakah langkah sepatutnya untuk kesihatan sy dan baby kandungan sy...sy tidak mahu terjejap apa apa kerana emosi sy

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Here are a few steps to help: Talk to a therapist – They can guide you through your emotions. Communicate with your husband – Share how you feel and ask for support. Practice self-care – Take time for calming activities, like deep breathing or a gentle walk. Lean on loved ones – Reach out to family or friends who can offer support. See your doctor – Make sure they’re aware of how you’re feeling for extra help. Taking care of yourself is important for both you and your baby.

How do I communicate to my husband or family that I need emotional support. Without sounding like I’m complaining?

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It’s important to express your needs in a way that feels comfortable for you. You could try saying something like, "I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately and could really use some emotional support. It’s not about complaining, I just need someone to listen and be there for me right now." By framing it this way, you’re focusing on your feelings and needs, rather than focusing on what others might not be doing. This opens up a space for understanding without it feeling like a criticism.

Saya di kata sebagai selfish oleh isteri sendiri sedangkan saya juga turut sama menjaga anak serta menjaga kebajikan isteri dan anak

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It sounds like you’re feeling misunderstood. Sometimes, when one partner feels overwhelmed, they might use words like "selfish" without meaning it in the way it sounds. It might help to have a calm conversation with your wife about how you're feeling. You could say, “I feel like I’m doing my best to take care of both of you, but I’m hearing that I’m selfish. Can we talk about what’s bothering you?” This way, you open the door for a constructive discussion.