Need a listening ear .. I've currently on at least 1 year no pay leave to be SAHM to take care of my two kids (age 7 and 16 months old).. especially for my 16 months old cos previously when I was still working , I sent him to infant care but he kept falling sick .. though I know it is normal that they will fall sick initially but he got bronchitis 3-4x.. thus, the decision to take care of my kids by myself cos I have no other help ..no parents or in-law's help available .. couldn't find a suitable babysitter .. my job is quite a high paying one , thus initially my hubby was unwilling for me to take 1 year no pay leave but seeing our baby down with bronchitis so many times within the short span of 6 months , we decided that perhaps this is the best choice for now .. I realised that being a SAHM is tough but satisfying .. there are challenging days but seeing my kids achieving their milestones is something that money can't buy. I also realised that becos I'm a SAHM now , my hubby becomes less Hands-on.. maybe he thinks that I'm not working so leave everything to me especially when it comes to handling the kids .. I still think he should bond with the kids but now is like he completely push everything to me :( he always say you are not earning now , full time housewife , so gotta do more . I'm okie to do more but at least he should spend time playing with kids too, right ? And whenever I wanna go grocery shopping or buy something for the kids, he will keep reminding me that I'm not earning now, don't anyhow spend .. I didn't anyhow spend .. i jus buy what is necessary like grocery and kid's necessities .. every time I need to spend money to buy what is needed, I'll feel so stressed .. and the way he says it makes me feel bad that I'm not working .. any SAHM here who is in similar situation as me ? Give up high paying job for at least a year to take care of family and kids full time?

Vô danh

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Hi I am in a worse situation than you. I left my high paying and stable job for my husband to develop his career overseas and then I had to come back when I was pregnant as I couldn't get used to the food overseas. When I came back to SG I lost the spouse allowance. I have been trying to look for a job for a year but it i hard since I stop work for about two years. And the higher you are in your career the harder it gets to find a job . Especially for me as a new mom, to adapt to a new job and environment and yet want to come back home on time to see my baby it is a clash of interests . I am thinking to do part time work. Meanwhile when i wasn't working for these two years I sell things online to earn pocket money. Things are tough coz I still have a mortgage go pay ...I am feeling very stressed too. But sometimes I think about the time I spent with my gal and how much she has learnt then I feel consoled. But most time I feel tired and when my gal is fussy and naughty I really feel like why am I a sahm. Focus on your kids. The rest of the things will resolve somehow . And about your husband telling you not to spend , well men are insensitive . And men in general are not hands on be it whether the wife is working or not. Sigh ...let's hang in there and focus on our kids

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Home Just Mums need listening ear ive currently least 1 year pay leave sahm take care two kids age 7 16 months old especially 16 months old cos previously when i was still working i sent him infant care but kept falling sick though i know normal that fall sick initially but got bronchitis 3 4x thus decision take care kids myself cos i have other help parents in law help available couldnt find suitable babysitter job quite high paying thus initially h