Comments on baby from in-laws

My in-laws made so much comments on baby when we first visited. Instead of fawning over their grandchild, or asking how are we coping with a newborn, or checking how is my recovery, they just freely commented on baby in front of baby and us things like "the skin so dark", "looks like tomboy", "so skinny", "hair so little" etc. As a new mum, their unnecessary and unkind remarks on my precious baby made me upset and I seriously fear more on the next visits. Any good advice on how we can politely let them know we do mind such comments? I love my baby deeply, I feel defensive to hear these yet helpless because I dunno how to react. *No, ignoring their words is not helpful advice, a real solution is preferred, otherwise this will just be a continuous cycle and worsen my anxiety and stress level each time we visit them* *Update: Many have advised to ignore. We did that, and just as I have expected, these comments continued every time we meet. 🙄

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I’m not on the best term with my in laws! When my baby was almost a month old they insisted on bringing the baby to their house so that they can pray (for idk what fk reason) I’m a Christian they Buddhist so I’m super annoyed already! When I went over baby needed to latch so I went to the room to latch then after that baby poop so I change diaper and then latch again! All these took awhile! So MIL decided to be a bij came in the room and say “why so long one baby NEED to go down” I shoot back “why NEED to go down? I’m latching you all WAIT” lmao beggars can’t be choosers. After that they also keep saying about my baby girl and teaching me what to do! “Need to shave the hair” “need to shave the brow” “need to drink water” need to do this do that ALL I retaliate cause I’m not the kind that will keep quiet and tahan so I say “why need to cut I’m not going to cut” “already no brows shave what brows crazy ah” “not even 6 months drink what water” I just shut them up with “THIS IS MY BABY YOU ALL DONT TEACH ME WHAT TO DO IF YOU ALL WANT A BABY TO CONTROL GO MAKE 1 yourself” So in my opinion dont shut up just speak for yourself when you need to. JIA YOU!

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A wife, a mom to a 16mths old toddler & an educator.

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EXACTLY. I told my MIL the same, if anyone is going to “school” me on how I care & raise my baby, make one themselves. It’s our right as a mom. So speak up.

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