Comments on baby from in-laws

My in-laws made so much comments on baby when we first visited. Instead of fawning over their grandchild, or asking how are we coping with a newborn, or checking how is my recovery, they just freely commented on baby in front of baby and us things like "the skin so dark", "looks like tomboy", "so skinny", "hair so little" etc. As a new mum, their unnecessary and unkind remarks on my precious baby made me upset and I seriously fear more on the next visits. Any good advice on how we can politely let them know we do mind such comments? I love my baby deeply, I feel defensive to hear these yet helpless because I dunno how to react. *No, ignoring their words is not helpful advice, a real solution is preferred, otherwise this will just be a continuous cycle and worsen my anxiety and stress level each time we visit them* *Update: Many have advised to ignore. We did that, and just as I have expected, these comments continued every time we meet. 🙄

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Better not to visit. Get your husband to speak to them. You don't need to react. I think we should protect our mental health and not let these negative comments haunt us. What is most important now is the baby. Stay strong 💪

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"Your grandchild is so looking forward to meet you. Dont let your comment upset the baby." For me i will just directly tell them that all this comments are unpleasant and they shouldnt say it in front of baby.

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U say directly without hesitation.. then it won’t repeat again .. must clearly they understand ur feelings . How can they comment on their own grandchild .. so rude

i will pull my husband aside and make sure he tells them not do it again to prevent unhappiness between you and them always better to let their son do the 'negative'

Speak to ur husband and let him know how u feel. Ask him to talk to his parents about it. My hubby does it subtly and they get the hint and stop the nonsense

Get ur hubs to tell them to stop! If not, tell them “ya lor, look like ur son when he’s young” in a joking manner. They should get it.

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Adopt a closed door policy. No visitors allowed.. I’m planning to only allow visitors after 1 mth or so. 🙄

Tell them since they don’t love the baby, you will not bring baby to see them again 😆

Ask them " Anything else nice to say to ur grandchild?" 😊😊😊 lol so annoying...