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So like every other day, I bring my 2½ year old toddler to the playground after school. My toddler normally plays alone and I accompany him with whatever he wants to do (playing slide , climbing etc) until some other kids come and then will my toddler make friends by playing tgt. So apparently today , there were 3 diff kids , 3 diff helpers who were at the playground. My toddler tried to play with the big kids but they ignored him so my toddler just continued playing on his own. Now the helpers were busy chit-chatting when one of the boy pushed my toddler away causing him to fall & cry badly. Me being a typical parent, I scolded the boy and he ran off showing a smirk. His helper just watched and didn't do anything . Hubby came back from work and met us at the pg , spent some time with toddler as I'm heavily preg and can't play catching. That was when it happened again in front of hubby. The same boy pushed my son hard and laughed. I mean I get it you don't wanna play with my son and my son has no issues playing on his own. So again I shouted at the boy to tell him to stop and confronted his helper. Helper just continued talking to the other 2 helpers with no care. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ At this point my blood is already boiling. Just nice , son wanted to go home and we walked off. I overheard helper hurling some words like how I acted just because a kid pushed my kid but I chose to walk off. Now , my son has bruises on his knees. 🤦🏻‍♀️ And I can't help but feel annoyed and angry that the helper didn't step in to prevent the kid from repeating it again. Don't tell me "oh they're just kids that's how they play etc" . It's about discipline. If you're not gonna step in to discipline your kid , then don't lash out at me if I step in as I hate kids who are unruly.

Totally agree with this. Some helpers or parents choose to ignore when this such things happened to a child. Dont be a PG bully when playing with young kids. I hate that. Ill confront the parents or helper. If it doesnt help, the next time video will be the evidence.

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Comments on baby from in-laws

My in-laws made so much comments on baby when we first visited. Instead of fawning over their grandchild, or asking how are we coping with a newborn, or checking how is my recovery, they just freely commented on baby in front of baby and us things like "the skin so dark", "looks like tomboy", "so skinny", "hair so little" etc. As a new mum, their unnecessary and unkind remarks on my precious baby made me upset and I seriously fear more on the next visits. Any good advice on how we can politely let them know we do mind such comments? I love my baby deeply, I feel defensive to hear these yet helpless because I dunno how to react. *No, ignoring their words is not helpful advice, a real solution is preferred, otherwise this will just be a continuous cycle and worsen my anxiety and stress level each time we visit them* *Update: Many have advised to ignore. We did that, and just as I have expected, these comments continued every time we meet. 🙄

express that you didn't like their comments through non verbal cues. better not to say verbally as it registers in mind and stays for ever. but in reality, I also retort back sometimes. it's not possible at the recieving end at all times.

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Today's Topic: You should co-sleep with your newborn. Agree or Disagree?🤔 This is an open space to share your opinions 😊. Share your views and experience in the comment below👍.

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Get A Helper Or Be A SAHM?

I'm 32 this year. I'm torn on whether I should leave my job to take care of my baby or get a Helper instead. Do you enjoy taking care of your child and watching them grow, or do you prefer to be financially stable(having your own money) since SG is not exactly cheap? And if you get a Helper, do you regret not having those times with your baby?

I hope to be able to choose to be sahm, which is a blessing to have such an option. I cannot as am main source of income and earner for the family, hubby earn much less. He will never be this small and young again. I speak like these because i was cared by granny as parents had to work.

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Infant care or helper

Which one do you suggest for working parents to send their baby to infant care or hire a helper? We both shift work. But now a days taking maid is so expensive due to covid period. But infant care also not cheap. Please share with me your opinions.

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Infant Care? FDW? Other alternatives?

Hi Mummies! Im due in abt 3mths and im considering between an infant care or a FDW (mainly house work while my parents help with taking care of baby when im at work). Spoke to my husband but he isnt keen on infant care as he feels baby is too young for an infant care and that baby cnt really voice out if anything happens. If baby is like older and able to speak, he doesnt mind. If i were to get a helper, mainly will be to help out with household etc but i will take care of baby when my husband and I available. And when im working, baby will be with my parents. My mom will take care of baby while helper will jus be an extra pairs of hands. However, my husband is also not too keen on additional person staying at home. So im not sure what will work. Hope some of u experienced mummies can share some advice! TIA!

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If I am you, I will go for FDW straight away since your parents are still the main caregiver when you are working. Babies in ifc can interact with one another but they also tend to fall sick more often. It’s very heartbreaking to see your LO fall sick.

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Infant care or helper?

Hi mummies, I’m not sure which one I should go for. Infant care is $2k++ as my baby is a foreigner and helper not very sure. I have trust issues and I feel hard to let someone taking care of my baby, but I have to work. ?Pls advise me...

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I would suggest, don’t get a helper while taking care of a baby who jz started working. At least get to know helper’s “characters & personality ” first. If you really have no choice, firm rules w helper + a CCTV or helper + a CCTV + have immediate family members come cover at your house on weekdays till you come back. You need to keep all your important belongings somewhere else. No cash / jewellery at home etc Or Infant care / weekdays nanny ( someone you can trust ) / immediate family members

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Feeling anxious about my 18th month LO first day of playgroup next month.

Any tips to prepare myself and my child? I am worried about how she will cope with a sudden change of environment and having a full day of programme to follow.

trust that in time you will both adapt. have lots of hugs together at the start and end of the day. keep drop off prompt and don’t linger around.

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Baby Covid Vaccination

Hi Mummies! My lo will be going for Covid Vaccination. She’s 13 months old. Any mummies who’s babies have gone for covid vaccination? What are the measures/things that i need to prepare for post vaccination for my lo? Please advice!!! #1sttimemom #firstmom #firstbaby #advicepls #FTM #firsttimemom

fever will likely come. prepare paracetamol, ibuprofen, fever patches.

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