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hello, any lupus mum here?

i’ve had lupus and went through a miscarriage before, and honestly i’m quite worried about trying again. any lupus mums here who managed to have a successful pregnancy? would really appreciate hearing your experience or any advice.😢

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s encouraging to hear that a healthy pregnancy is possible with proper medical care. Every situation is different, so working closely with a rheumatologist and a high-risk pregnancy specialist is important. Wishing all mothers going through this journey strength and hope.

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Mamypoko pants extry dry

I’ve been using Mamypoko Pants Extra Dry for a long time, up until my child turned 2+. Recently, they changed it to Mamypoko Pants Extra Dry Natural, and I’m not sure if it’s just me, but we’ve been experiencing frequent pee leakage since switching to the new version. My little one now leaks much more often, and even her school seems to be facing the same issue(i think), as she frequently comes home wearing a fresh pair of pants. Has anyone else experienced this after the change?

yes mummy. I've been using mamypoko since my son was a baby. Unfortunately they changed the version and it can't hold pee for long. I now use Merries. Feels like the mamypoko old version.

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I’m scared I’ve pushed my first child away without realising it

My son is in Primary 2 now, and I realised that I don’t really know how to have a proper heart-to-heart conversation with him. We talk, obviously. He tells me things. But I don’t feel like I’m the person he naturally comes to when he’s upset, confused, or just needs someone to listen. And I think… maybe I played a big part in that When I had my first child, I really wanted to be the “perfect mother”. Especially now, when information is literally everywhere. You can Google everything. There are parenting books, Instagram accounts, experts, podcasts, TikTok… for every little thing there’s always someone telling you what you’re supposed to do. And I consumed SO much of it. I always felt like I knew what I was supposed to do. If he did this, I knew how to respond. If he behaved that way, I knew what the “right” parenting approach was. I had routines, expectations, milestones, activities… everything. I thought I was being a very intentional mother. But looking back, I think I was also a very anxious mother 😭 Everything had to be done properly... I had this picture in my head of how my child should behave, how he should learn, how he should grow up. And whenever reality didn’t match that picture, I felt like I needed to fix it. I was always correcting. Guiding. Reminding. Managing. And somewhere along the way, I think I stopped listening to my own instincts. I became so dependent on all this information about what a “good parent” should do that I forgot to ask myself, What does my child actually need from me right now? Sometimes I feel like I was parenting from a manual. Like a robot who knew all the right things to say and do, but didn’t always know how to simply be there with her own child. And maybe my son felt that too. Our relationship sometimes feels like I have expectations of him, rather than truly knowing who he is. Now I’m pregnant with my second baby, due this December, although at this point, there’s a chance I might end up with a New Year baby 😂 And this pregnancy has made me think about all of this so much. I really don’t want to make the same mistakes with my second child. But I hope it’s not too late to change the way I relate to my first born, and I wish not to make the same mistake with my second...

Hugs mama. We're all just trying our best, and we're all first time mums with the first kid, trying to guide by the book. At least you've realised that now. It's definitely not too late. Hug your firstborn more and consume less parenting material, that will help u regulate yourself better as well. Jiayou!! And wishing you smooth delivery for your second child!

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missed miscarriage

found out i was pregnant at about week5. thoughts of termination as we already have 3kids. week6 1st appt but seems empty and maybe 'too small' to detect. week10 2nd scan still shows empty sac so its confirmed missed miscarriage. when through medication termination to clear the empty but 22 pills still there, so had a surgical termination instead in day 3 warded. i dont know what to feel. its been 2 weeks plus since.

Oh mama, two weeks is still so fresh, please be gentle with yourself. What you went through is really a lot: the uncertainty waiting from week 5 to week 10, the shock of the diagnosis, and then two procedures back-to-back. That's emotionally heavy even when the decision felt right at the time. A lot of mums I know who've had missed miscarriages say the grief feels complicated because there's no "before and after" moment, you're mourning something you didn't get to see develop, while maybe also feeling relieved about the decision. Both feelings can sit together, and that's okay. Some have found it really helpful to talk to a counsellor who specialises in pregnancy loss, not just because something's "wrong," but because having someone neutral to process all the mixed emotions with makes a difference. Right now, be kind to your body, it's been through surgery and hormonal shifts. Rest when you can, and if the emotional weight doesn't feel lighter in another week or two, or if you're having trouble sleeping or eating, definitely mention it to your GP or the doctor who did your termination. They can point you towards support that actually fits your situation. You're not alone in this, and how you're feeling makes complete sense.

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Anyone here undergone angioplasty? looking for advice and personal experiences

hi everyone, my doctor recently mentioned angioplasty as a possible treatment for a narrowed artery, and honestly, i'm feeling a little nervous about it. i'd like to hear from people who have gone through the procedure. was it painful, and how long did it take you to recover? were there any side effects or things you had to avoid after the procedure? i'd also appreciate any advice on what to expect before and after angioplasty. thank you!

i was nervous about angioplasty too, but the procedure was easier than i expected and recovery went well. i had leg pain and numbness from a narrowed artery, and Dr Sujit Singh Gill performed angioplasty to restore the blood flow. my walking improved afterwards, and i’d definitely recommend his vascular clinic in Singapore. 😊

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Any Recommendations? ty

Has anyone experienced hammer toes? what are the treatment options, and can anyone recommend a good doctor in singapore for this?

hello! for hammer toes, surgery may be considered if the toe is painful, stiff or making it hard to wear shoes. i had a painful, curled toe that was rubbing against my shoes, and Dr Yung Shing Wai performed hammer toe surgery to correct it. my recovery went well, and i was finally able to walk comfortably again. i’d genuinely recommend him if you’re looking for a best foot surgeon in Singapore

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Cream? Moisturiser? HELP

Hi mummies. My 2 year old girl has a mosquito bites, it heals but there’s brown spots. Is there any cream that’s able to whiten those spots on her skin? Much help pleasee. TIA!

Hi! I totally get the frustration, mosquito bites on toddlers can leave those stubborn brown spots for ages. The thing is, at two years old, you'll want to be quite careful with what you use, so it's really worth checking with her paediatrician first before trying any brightening creams, even gentle ones. From what I've heard, the key is actually catching it early, keeping the bite calm and moisturised while it's healing (so she doesn't scratch and make the mark darker) matters more than trying to fade it after. A simple, fragrance-free moisturiser applied regularly helps, and some mums swear by keeping hydrocortisone cream on hand for the inflammation stage itself, though again, best to ask the doctor about that for her age. The marks do fade on their own over time, but it's a waiting game, could take a few months depending on her skin. In the meantime, good sun protection on those spots helps too!

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As a mum, I’m worried about my high calcium levels, and my doctor mentioned checking my parathyroid glands. When is surgery needed, and what tests helped confirm the cause?

Hey, this one better not wait, please follow up with your doctor on those test results and the next steps, okay? Parathyroid issues can be tricky and really need proper medical checking to sort out what's going on and whether surgery is needed. Your doctor will know best when it's time for that based on your specific situation. Wishing you all the best with this.

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Hi mums, looking for recommendations for wisdom tooth extraction. any good dentists?

hi mummies, anyone here had their wisdom tooth removed before? mine has been hurting quite a bit and i'm a bit scared about the pain and recovery, especially with kids to take care of. any recommendations for a good dentist in Malaysia? and how long did it take you to recover?

Ah, I totally feel your worry, I had one out last year and was so anxious about managing with my kids at home too! The good news is it's really doable, just need a bit of planning. From what people around me have shared, most recover within two weeks, though the first few days are the trickiest part. Someone I know paid around RM1055 for a straightforward extraction with multiple injections, and she said it was fast and clean, definitely worth going to someone experienced. The main thing is to take it easy that first day: no gargling, no brushing right at the extraction site, and just soft foods for a bit. I'd honestly recommend taking at least 2-3 days off if you can, even if you're back to light duties after, your body needs the rest, especially with little ones demanding attention!

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mummies, what did you do for your child’s ankle sprain? any doctor recommendations?

hi mummies, hoping someone can share some advice! my son twisted his ankle during PE/sports yesterday and it’s quite swollen today. he can still walk but is limping and says it hurts quite a bit. i’ve been icing it and trying to get him to rest, but not sure if i should bring him to a doctor or just monitor for a few days. for those who’ve been through an ankle sprain with your kids, what did you do and how long did it take to recover? did you see a gp, physio or orthopaedic doctor? would really appreciate any recommendations too! 🙏

I'd definitely bring him to see the PD or a GP just to be sure there's no fracture, since he's still limping quite a bit and the swelling is pretty significant. Once you've ruled that out, most ankle sprains do settle with rest, ice and elevation, though some parents I know have found physio helpful if the limp doesn't improve after a week or two. Recovery usually takes anything from a couple of weeks to a month depending on how bad the sprain is, so it's worth getting it checked early so you know what you're dealing with and can plan his activities accordingly.

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