Is it wrong if I sleep in until noon? Am I a bad parent?????????

Is it really so wrong if I sleep in until noon? Lately, I’ve been struggling to wake up early, and it makes me feel like a bad mum. The mornings just pass by, and I haven’t even bathed my baby until later in the day. I know some people might judge me for it, but honestly, my body has been so sore, and I haven’t been feeling well. It’s not like I don’t care—I care a lot, maybe too much—and that’s what’s making this so heavy. I used to be the kind of person who got everything done early, always ticking off the to-do list. But now, with a baby, it feels like I’m running a marathon every day. Some nights, I barely sleep because my little one keeps waking up, and by the time the sun rises, I feel like I’ve already been through a full day. I tell myself I’ll just lie down for a bit longer... then suddenly, it’s 11am. Noon. And the guilt creeps in again. Sometimes I wonder if other mums feel the same. Do they also struggle with this mix of exhaustion and guilt? On social media, everyone seems so put-together—making breakfast at 7am, doing activities with their kids by 9am. Meanwhile, I’m still in my pajamas, trying to muster the energy to start the day while my baby plays beside me. It’s hard not to compare. But maybe, just maybe, I need to give myself a bit more grace. This phase is hard, and I’m learning that being a good parent doesn’t mean ticking every box or being perfect. Sometimes, it just means showing up, loving my child fiercely, and doing my best with what I’ve got. And right now, that includes allowing myself to rest when I need it.

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Hey, you are describing me 😂. I think not just me but many others too. I have friends sharing same stories. You are not alone. Being parent is hard so hard which i only realise after being a mom. Exhausted, smelling like puke 😂 all the time that was me. My daughter is 2 now and she understands basic nos and yes. So life has gotten so much easier. Being a parent can be physically and mentally exhausting, So stay strong. This hard time will pass.

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My lo 18m now also sometimes he just play beside me and i unconsciously fall asleep. Everyday is tiring. As long your lo is beside you, safe place(no risk of falling etc), its fine. Just rest. Its not like youre starving them or anything