Need a listening ear .. I've currently on at least 1 year no pay leave to be SAHM to take care of my two kids (age 7 and 16 months old).. especially for my 16 months old cos previously when I was still working , I sent him to infant care but he kept falling sick .. though I know it is normal that they will fall sick initially but he got bronchitis 3-4x.. thus, the decision to take care of my kids by myself cos I have no other help ..no parents or in-law's help available .. couldn't find a suitable babysitter .. my job is quite a high paying one , thus initially my hubby was unwilling for me to take 1 year no pay leave but seeing our baby down with bronchitis so many times within the short span of 6 months , we decided that perhaps this is the best choice for now .. I realised that being a SAHM is tough but satisfying .. there are challenging days but seeing my kids achieving their milestones is something that money can't buy. I also realised that becos I'm a SAHM now , my hubby becomes less Hands-on.. maybe he thinks that I'm not working so leave everything to me especially when it comes to handling the kids .. I still think he should bond with the kids but now is like he completely push everything to me :( he always say you are not earning now , full time housewife , so gotta do more . I'm okie to do more but at least he should spend time playing with kids too, right ? And whenever I wanna go grocery shopping or buy something for the kids, he will keep reminding me that I'm not earning now, don't anyhow spend .. I didn't anyhow spend .. i jus buy what is necessary like grocery and kid's necessities .. every time I need to spend money to buy what is needed, I'll feel so stressed .. and the way he says it makes me feel bad that I'm not working .. any SAHM here who is in similar situation as me ? Give up high paying job for at least a year to take care of family and kids full time?

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mummy. kudos to you! i was a werking mom before deciding to take care of my peas age 1,3 and 6. i was very depress and unaccepted of my life for at least the first 10 mnths... but i slowly began to realise that its very rewarding. becos i get to witness alot of my childrens growth... i have more mental convo with them compare to my werk plc stress level are totally different when ure werking and Sahm.... but u know u are doing things the way you want things to run in the house... at the end of the day, even so we are not paid with money,... we get paid by simple werds like " i love you so much mummy... dont go back to werk"... "i want to sleep with you tonight"... "you are the best chef!" and these simple werds are so satisfying to heart. apart from tat .... u kids are more bonded with you. and would mostly listen to you most... if the husband feel like you need to handle all on your own, u excuse urself... take a breather and let him feel how its like being home with kids all times.... slowly he will appreciate and give u hand when u need (i hope) .... the next worst feeling is when ur have to go back to work.. u will feel a sense of dilema... its tough.. but if u decide to stay home all the way... hey we got nothing to loose here... 🙂🙂 all the best mummy. u r doing fine 👌🏽

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