To Proceed and Agree OR to not proceed and disagree

Mummies.. my husband has left me close to 7 months and has since decided to divorce me. But not yet confirm with Syariah Court. So technically, we're still legally married by status and law. These past few months have been an extreme rollercoaster ride for me. Also a reflecting one. Lost my loved one just recently. Have been waiting for job offer for quite sometime. And of course the main one, is the divorce. If you were in my shoes, would you proceed with the divorce or would you give it another shot? Cos i believe, both parties are at wrong and i also believe both parties haven't show and shower plenty of love towards each other. I do not know why am i thinking and feeling this way. We have a child together who is turning one soon. And yeah, humans are bound to make mistakes. I just don't want to be in the same position. I want to grow out of it. But i do not know what is in his mind. I do not want to initiate any conversation. We have not been having any conversation eversince. So it'll be awkward if we do now and i do not want to get hurt or receive any hurtful comments from him. #advisepls

Vô danh

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salam sis, the fact that you still see the relationship in some positive light, i strongly encourage you to give it another try. have an open and honest conversation with him about the past mistakes, the current emotions, and the actions to be taken moving forward. No one said marriage is easy but when you can fight so hard to be married to each other, then how about fighting harder to be together? but being able to sit down and have an open and honest conversation, must mutually be done by both parties in order for these to work. i pray He ease your affairs and may you and your husband be provided with strength and courage to go through these hurdles in life and marriage. ✨

salam sis, i think you and your husband should go for couples counselling. divorce should be the last resort as both parties should try to make it work. marriage is not a joke and you both should practice sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah (talk in peace, show love, for the sake of Allah swt). my mum always advice that if either party is angry like fire, one must act to be water to cool down. you both are partners in life and should consider divorce as the last resort when reconcillation is impossible. be kind, be gracious, be good and be brave always. 🌸

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Sorry to hear and what you are going through, it is a tough one. Maybe both parties can sit down talk and listen to each other. To Better understand and move forward together as a family, spouse and parent.

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continue if u can 💕

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