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My sister just went though her first cycle of IVF and failed. She had been married way longer than me and I am currently 19 weeks pregnant while she had struggled with miscarriage, IUI and now IVF. As much as it is something I cannot control, I feel kinda bad about it. I’m trying to give her and my brother-in-law as much support as I can but I always feel like it’s not enough. She has been nothing but a wonderful person for me to lean on throughout my pregnancy and she always supports me. Anything else I can do to support her? Or any advice?

Hello Everyone! Excited to “see” you! I am Physician Jolene Chong, TCM Physician and Advisor, Market Development at Eu Yan Sang TCM Premier Clinic, Paragon Medical Suites. Together with the team at TAP, we would love to help as many of you as we can on your conceiving journey. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) has been experiencing a growing acceptance to complement Western medicine in treating common fertility conditions in today's society. We are able to devise the ideal personalized combination of treatments (such as consumption of Chinese herbal prescriptions, acupuncture, moxibustion, cupping etc) to target any issue faced by a patient after understanding your body constitution. While treating each patient, TCM also addresses the overall well-being of the patient and aims to improve his/her holistic health. #advicepls #pleasehelp #improvefertility #infertility #sub-fertility #traditionalchinesemedicine #tcm #herbs #acupuncture #cupping #moxibustion #euyansang #euyansangtcmpremiercenter #paragonmedical ------------------ 👩-what nourishment can I eat from TCM ? can I eat bird nest and chicken essence? which trimester can I start eating 👩‍⚕️ Bird Nest and Chicken Essence are fine for consumption by pregnant ladies, and they can be consumed throughout your pregnancy. Other nourishing herbs which you can consider taking would be 党参、茯苓、山药、玉竹 etc for the improvement of your digestive system; 莲子、百合 for the improvement of your respiratory system and calming of mind and spirit. Hope this clarifies your doubt! :) 👩 Any food to avoid while taking TCM? 👩‍⚕️ I would advise my patients to avoid Radish (which may reduce the effectiveness of my prescription) and Grapefruit (which may heightened the effects of my prescription to undesirable levels). It is also essential to note to have an interval of 2 hours with any other Western medications and/or supplements which you are taking. Hope this clarifies your doubts! :) Here are some questions asked in our community, and we got the answers for you ✅

So my dear mil refuses to eat left over food. Every meal needs to be fresh cooked meal. She also doesn’t allow my husband or her grandchildren to eat leftover. It’s sibei fustrating for me. Cause what am I supposed to do with all these damn leftovers? She says leftover food is unhealthy and refrigerating /microwave will result in bacteria and this will result in long term illness. Hubby just listens to her when she’s home. Otherwise he himself loves leftovers. But he doesn’t think it’s worth fighting with his Ma about this.

SIL likes to dictate our lives and it’s getting too overwhelming. She comes to our place and tells us what we need to buy or own. She also forced us to use her old baby mattresses (last used was 5 yrs ago) when I told her I’m not comfortable with it. She got upset with me when I didn’t wanna accept all her kids’ old clothes as some had holes and some were moldy. I did keep those that looked wearable. And the baby chair looked unstable and had the moldy plastic smell. When I had baby blues (mainly because of her overbearing behaviour and my MIL’s constant visiting and not allowing me and baby to have proper rest), she told my husband she didn’t have it so she feels I shouldn’t have it either. I finally broke down one day and cried loudly, which my MIL accidentally overheard, and now she and my MIL feels offended by me. It’s like I don’t even have the right to be upset. While my husband have told them to back off from me, they’re still telling and dictating what my husband needs to do. Now they want our new maid to go clean my parent in law’s house also, which I feel is not right. And insist we go stay over at my parent in laws’ place regularly (we are living with my parents temporarily until our new place comes), which I find unnecessary and logistically too much. They have been trying to convince my husband to continue this living arrangement and rent out our new house instead. These are just a few examples of the things they do, and I honestly cannot take it anymore. No matter what my husband tell them, they just won’t back off from him. Even though they don’t directly approach me now, they still approach my husband to enforce their ideas on him, which then affects our new family as a whole, and I am really very very of their nonsense. My husband is also at his wits end because they would threaten him that he would break down the relationship at home and they would stop showing concern or giving us anything else if we keep rejecting their ideas and ‘help’. Even basic thing like naming of our son, my sis in law also threatened my husband and said if he insist on naming our own son, it will break apart the family. In the end we had to give in and let my FIL name him. Please help give me suggestions on how my husband and I can deal with my SIL. #firsttimemom #advicepls

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Feeling depressed. My in-laws expect a boy from us right from the start. We have 3 girls now. And now that am pregnant again, they think the 4th one for sure is a boy. If it's a girl again, they will definitely think something is wrong with me and I am super unlucky not to have a boy at all. Seriously don't feel like announcing my pregnancy to them and also sharing the gender with them. #1 it was 75% confirm to be a girl and they insists the doctor is talking bullshit. Oh Wells.

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My mum in law has been adding a lot of fire to fights I have with my husband (away from the kids of course). Now our not-so-serious fights have seemed to take a more serious turn. My husband mentioned getting a divorce. Should I talk to my mum in law and tell her (nicely) to stay out of our problems? Or just throw in the towel?