Stress

Just don’t do don’t plan . If her face becomes black , use your husband as a shield and say that he wants 100 days ( I think you should tell him you will use him as a shield, so if anything were to happen he will need to handle his own mom which I think is fair enough). Tell her in the face no money , you will only do it if you have sponsors . Which means you are telling her indirectly to pay for it if she wants it . I feel that by doing that you’ll help you , your husband and your child in a long run and she will understand you are the one taking charge of the finance part . This kind of tradition is really annoying .