I am the writer for previous several posts indicating my serious nervous breakdown on the scary fears of contraction and delivery labour pains. My mum in law understood my fears & worried I am having a mental breakdown or severe depression which I am facing seriously lately! I told her directly I may want to go for C-sect with epidural delivery even if my baby is not in breech position. Because I heard from 2 friends that their C-sect's wounds are not really very painful after delivery. If painful, just take painkillers to ease. I don't know how true though. But my mum in law "insisted & psychoed" me to go for normal delivery with epidural. She told me the contraction & actual labour pains were ok to deal with which can be tolerated. But my pain threshold is extremely low. Then she also told me the wound (vagina tear or the cut due to episiotomy) wouldn't hurt as much as the big wound caused by C-sect op. She asked me: "Is it you want to have any excruciating pains from a C-sect wound? And do you know if the wound is not cleaned well, then will have infections too? Is that what I want?" She has her own points, makes sense and concerns too. She sounded really upset when I told her my current decision about C-sect with epidural and she told me very FIRMLY twice: "Ok I don't care which delivery method you used as long as my grandchild (gender unknown yet) is safely delivered! I just want to have a healthy grandchild that's all!" What should I do? She really wants me to go by natural delivery badly & maybe I want C-sect because I really don't want to experience contraction, dilation & actual labour pains! Of course I don't mind trying normal delivery with epidural as long as the anesthesia effect can last from contraction pains till full actual delivery (pushing out of baby). Pls advise mummies! Thanks!

Vô danh

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Hi I think you should focus on the joys of pregnancy more and try to stop thinking about the pain of child birth. The previous generations have different standards of medical services so try not to base your decision on their experiences. My mom told me horrible stories about how painful it was and she had a big episiotomy(vaginal cut) which did not heal well. I gave birth during Dec 2015. Weeks before I gave birth I also worry about the pain but I was sure i wanted natural birth due to the good effects it has on the baby. And c sect actually has more risks than natural birth. If you take epidural you won't feel much pain at all. I myself went to induce birth and took epidural shortly after. From 7am to 5am I did not feel any contractions pain and the only pain I felt was the nurse poking the IV drip. However due to complications I needed to have a c sect. My experience is c sect wound is very painful. It heals slower than a vaginal cut and hinders your normal activities for the first two weeks. Even getting up for breasffeeding and wearing my underwear in the first week was uncomfortable as the cut is at the area whereby you will feel the pain as long as you bend or lift your legs. My frens who have episotomy all said it heals within a week. That said the decision is still yours. No matter which way childbirth will have some pain be it during or after the birth. You are already very brave to come so far since pregnancy itself comes with some discomfort and poking of needles at times. Just try to focus on having a healthy baby and being a happy mom ok.

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Home Pregnancy i writer previous several posts indicating serious breakdown scary fears contraction delivery labour pains mum in law understood fears worried i having mental breakdown severe depression which i facing seriously latelyi told directly i want go c sect with epidural delivery if baby not in breech position because i heard from 2 friends that c sect wound not really very painful after delivery if painful take painkillers ease i dont know how true thoughbut mu