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Hubby wants to open a savings account. He said it's for us. But wants it to be under his name. Does he makes sense? I want it to be under both our names though so whatever happens I know I also have authority and for sure I'll contribute to it in the long run. What to do?

Without a thought of course under both names. Otherwise don't say it's for us. Better say for himself. Be firm about it and not give in.

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My husband and i have been quarreling. He doesn't want to listen. He expect me to listen to him . His off days he doesn't look after my lo. He said he needs to go back to work. I trusted him. Until i found out when he come back he went straight to sleep. I can even smell beer in his body. Many times i thinking of divorce. I m telling myself why. If he cheated on me; i will know because he will not have sex. But we had sex. If he doesn't and thats where my suspicious comes. I am ready to raised my daughter alone. I can be both role. Whats the point of having this type of man in my life where he doesn't even help me. I even checked his messages. What ever messages within his friends or colleague. He delete it off. Seriously; i need to ask myself where i stand. Mummy what would you do??

Hi do talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Let him know that you are going crazy without help. Don’t jump to conclusions and think of divorce yet. Allow him to share his viewpoint as well. You both have a child to raise, so do think of his/her future.

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My MIL treats my SIL's son like a GEM. Everything is about him. My other SIL also feel that her own mum is biased. Every time we have family gathering, with all the grandchildren around, the boy gets special attention. Even though she say she is shifting in with us (we have a room well furnished for her), but she only sleepover for 1-2nights/week. Most of the time she sleep at my SIL place with the GEM. I feel that the room for her in my house is 'under-utilised'. I could have converted it into a playroom for my kids. And sometimes when she comes over, she brought the GEM to sleepover too. I don't feel good, kinda feel privacy intruded. Am I normal to feel this way?

Have you spoken to your husband and what are his thoughts about converting the room? How old is your child?

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Like to ask for CNY do you visit ALL houses instructed by your PIL or MIL during the 1st and 2nd day. CNY is the most hatred occasion to me because I find it very bored and tiring to bring our 2.5 yo girl to house visiting. As most of my hubby's relatives houses are not very well ventilated and from past 2 years experience my girl can look abit shag and sweat like mad, I am thinking to skip visiting some houses. My MIL is quite stubborn kind and won't listen to me and will insist to bring our girl along. What would you do if you are in this situation?

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How involved is your Husband in your children's lives? I'm just disappointed that my husband doesn't seem ready to be a Father yet. He's not young, he's just like a blockhead. I tried to send him articles to read, encourage him to read up more about pregnancy and how to handle kids as a first time parents. He's excited about having kids but he's not doing anything else. I added him in Fb mummies n daddies group so that he can read those queries that mummies daddies post. Because of some complications in pregnancy I gotta quit my job. So I'm so free to Google n check things out. Like what milk bottles to buy, breast pump, milk powder, diapers, when's baby fair what to buy at the fair etc etc etc etc. So I asked him for opinion he will be like "I'll check" but he NEVER GET BACK TO ME. I ask again n again on separate days. There's a upcoming baby fair and I said the baby fair don't seem to sell the Sterilizer I want. He's like what you want ; Oh, then how? I was mad. I mentioned Hanil like 10-20 times before?!! Is he even listening. I scolded him, don't think u are the only one working now u can't don't care anything. Because next time I'll go back to workforce and I can foresee I'll be only one handling both of them (I'm Expecting twins). I'm too is a ftm but I dislike how he know nuts and still doesn't seem to be worried. I even create excel spreadsheet to let know how what is needed for mummy and babies if anything he don't know he has to ask me or Google but he didn't even read through the spreadsheet. don't get me wrong he's a nice Husband, he massage me Every night even wash my feet for me because I can't bend down to reach. How can I make him be more involve in pregnancy n get him ready to be a daddy ?

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I once spoke to a fellow daddy about this, I asked him why is he so hands on, participating in fb groups, recording his baby’s feeding times etc...he told me he’s only like this because his wife doesn’t do anything. If his wife is doing most of the parenting, he will also take a backseat. Then I realised, men are supposedly laid back in parenting because most of us mummies want to do everything immediately! So seeing that we are so capable, they feel that they can just leave this role to us.

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What's the best family sport where "all" members of the family will really enjoy?

Try pinoy traditional games like pantintero or piko.

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After baby, our personal life is not on same track as it was. How can we manage our personal life?

Hey mums Thnku so much after ur encouragement it's getting better and better. Luv u guys

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Has anyone here tried spending new year in a hotel? How is it?

We have tried once. It was fun though. The hotel had a count down party. Free flowing drinks and food. There were plenty of bands as well.

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What will you do if your MIL keep buying stuffs that are impractical for your children? I requested my husband to tell her save the money and bring my children out for great food when we meet instead of buying stuffs. However, my husband scold me for being ungrateful and not being appreciative. My reason is the clothes my mil bought is often in very thick material (more for winter wear) or scary print which my girl don't even dare to go near not to mention put it on. I will normally keep it until they outgrown and bless it out. My husband scold me for wasting money by not letting the kids wear it and keep buying new clothes. There was once I just casually brought up the topic that the clothes are too thick to wear now as the weather is too hot when my mil ask. He get upsets and start to find trouble with me that day. He himself know the truth but keep pushing the blame to me. What will you guy do if you are me?

If it's so difficult, just take the clothes and keep quiet. Alternatively, ask her to bring your bub out along with you?

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I'm fed up with my Husband.

I'm fed up with my Husband. He is not working this month as he is waiting to start a new job in jan. Everyday he is at home feeling bored and tired. Daytime he just watched his TV and night time when all goes to bed, he is on his phone playing games n reading stomp etc. He doesn't play much with our toddler. Even when she is sick n I have difficulties trying to feed the screaming toddler medicine, he is just sitting there stuck to his TV!! I do everything in a rush always, having my meals, taking a shower n even pooing! Once, I was in the showers n I heard our baby crying. I quickly rush out n see him laying beside crying baby but he is on his phone! I asked why he didn't pick her up, his reply was he doesn't know what she wants and she is too fragile. This is our second baby and he still feels he can't handle a newborn! I feel like screaming at him where is his Father instinct and that he is a lousy Father!!! I often chided him that he always feel tired because he spent his night reading useless news on his HP while everyone is asleep! N he doesn't nothing meaningful in the daytime!

Speak to him, and be specific what help you need from him

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