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I am a SAHM with 2 kids. I left my high pay job to care for my child as we are unable to find a good nanny nor helper and we got no help from our parents. At the beginning, I am still using my own saving from family expanse so there is no attitude change in my hubby. The moment I start getting household allowance he started to give me black face. He never help out in the house or make decisions for kids by giving excuse like he respect all my decisions but will start showing me his black face when I don't see eye to eye on his "opinion or decision". For example, he want to see his parents on one Sunday and I told him I will prefer to stay at home to rest due to the sleepless night as my kid is teething. He will say ok but start showing black face or talk to me rudely until I give in. He also stop communicating with me saying that he don't understand my "housewife" mindset or complaining that I talk to him at wrong hours. But there is never a time to talk to him at all. For example, he told me not to discuss anything with him before he go to work, on his way to work, during his work time, during his lunch time, right after he come home, while he is eating or playing his phone nor before he sleep. Also he expected me to keep house spank and clean, preparing dinner on top of caring for our girls and visiting his parents every week. (I don't really like to visit my in-laws as they did the same to me right after I resigned to be a housewife.) If I don't, he will start shout and showing me "black face" again. With all those requirements to fulfil, he expect me to be loving and send him "love" message every day. When I try to explain to him, he will start comparing me with his friends' Wife and start belittle my characters. I don't feel love at all from him or respect by his family and start thinking if I should get a job and start planning my divorce with him as he only use me as a helper. However, I am concern for my kids as they are still so young. What should I do?

sorry to hear about the situation you are in... it's really unfair what they expect of mothers. sigh agree with the other answer that perhaps you can consider a childcare and going back to work. mayb can start with a part time job first, and see whether things get better in your marriage. give it another shot before considering divorce because that's going to be tough on you and your child too. hope things get better soon, and stay strong! we women are made to be strong and withstand harder times!

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Does anyone know if Cathay has soymilk as an option on flight? Just want to see if we should bring our own for baby who has dairy allergies.

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Better bring your own as you dont know which brand are they using.

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Looking at Boracay for Xmas, can anyone recommend where to stay? So many choices and which beach is best to be near?

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I've heard good things about shangrila boracay however it's not on the main beach. I always stay in two seasons and Discovery shores. It's in the "quieter" part of the beach.

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If you staying with your in-laws, how do define improper attire? Does not wearing a bra considered as improper?

Well, ever since I was younger up to now and even when I stayed with my in-laws I never really wear a bra because it's more comfortable not if I have to go out the house or go some place else though. :)

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By what age kids develop reading habit?

Reading habit needs to be inculcated right from childhood. Given the right environment, kids as young as 2 yo might love flipping through picture books and picture story books. Once that sets in, kids start reading regular books at the age of 3.5-5 years.

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Can someone please advice me if your husband is constantly 24/7 glued to their mobile phone without any communication or interactions and things are not the same as before. Even at night where he can not slp and just glued to his phone. It affect me badly. Nth resolved and this is getting out of hand, I Duno what to do anymore.

All methods doesn't works. Just getting really tired of this

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Has anyone ever used babysitters provided by a hotel before? We're wondering if we should with our 18 month old toddler for a trip we're making soon. What questions would you ask a hotel when considering a babysitter service?

From my experience yes they have if you are staying in family friendly hotels. You can ask the concierge. Better send the hotel an email to check.

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My 5 year old son threatens to run away or say that we don't love him or say very disturbing, self-deprecating things when he doesn't get what he wants. How do we deal with this?

Such a young child would not say such things unless something is really bothering him. You need to talk to hum and find out what's going on in his mind. External influences would tend to make him use such threats. Give him extra attention and affection so that his insecurities die down. Change will surely come.

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My in-laws just got their new home done. Can anybody suggest any house warming gifts?

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Any gift you can offer

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What are pros and cons of being with your spouse literally everyday?

I am blessed to be with my wife for almost 20 years already. One of the advantages that I am thankful for is that we have reached the highest level of comfort for almost two decades of living with each other. I do not have any cons actually because I enjoy every minute of being with my spouse everyday. Of course, you don't get the privilege of deciding things on your own and having alone time, however, who needs those when you have a loving wife and two kids? In reality, this is the life that I chose. Part of my wedding vow is being with her everyday and indeed, it is a blessing that I would not exchange with anything.

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