Living with in laws

Hi mumss, may I ask how do you deal with your feeling when you stay with your in laws ? I have a very hard time right now as my mother in law would never respect my decision against anything related to my children. She will take one step ahead of me , when i say no , she will just do it . She’ll do anything that i said No when i wasn’t around. And i feel very sian because like my decision means nothing. I have stay with them for 5 years, and there’s still 5 years to go . Feel so tired and suffocating. I dont wanna speak to her but i got no choice since we are living together and she always try to get involved in my kids activities. Im glad that my children gets along with them, its just that in some circumstances i need my own life too. I wanna do things in my own way but i got no chance for now

Typical Asian

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I was in the same position. I can only tahan 1 year plus. I cannot take it so we moved to rental. Best decision ever! Especially when you have your own baby. If youre ok financially, apply bto , then after flat selection, apply PPHS rental. Or theres such thing as public scheme rental.

Be very firm. No means no. What shes doing is already disrespecting you and that teaches your children to disrespect you as well. Pls tell your husband to advise her as well. And you need to tell your children that they have to follow you not their grandma.

Sit down and have a good talk with your husband. Or be firm and stern with your mil. Another way is to get rental flat from hdb. Have subsidy if you’re waiting for your new house. Check out hdb website for more details..

If you can’t voice out directly to her, your husband should do it (which he should have done it all along). Be stern, be firm even if they not happy.

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perhaps best to move out if your husband cannot rein in his mother 😓

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