Disappointed in parents

Random, but i just feel the need to rant somewhere. Have you guys felt disappointed or little resentment towards your parents during or after your pregnancy? Ever since the start of my pregnancy until now, 33weeks, my parents has never really asked me about my well being or about baby’s well being. Its always im the one that need to randomly update or tell them. Im staying with my in laws, and im always the one that need to visit my parents house, they have never once asked me to come over or try to visit me or ask me out. They also always tell me to msg them whenever i want or if i need something, when we meet. But whenever i msg them, specifically my mum, be it normal msg to inform something or to rant about something thats bothering me, she always never reply. Mind you, shes almost mostly on her phone. As of now they also never like buy things for me or baby, or like chip in to buy baby stuff. Not a single thing. Fyi i am the first in family to be pregnant this will be their first grandchild. I just feel and wished that my parents wouldve given me more support or so. Cause i feel like im not their daughter ? Pls dont me to tell my parents or talk to them abt this cs im not the type to let out my feelings and itll be awkward if i do so. Aside to this, is it normal to feel that pregnancy can be very lonely ? Like nobody feels you or understand you and you kind of expected mroe support but never really get it. Be it from husband or others. It feels like im going through this journey alone. And people just want the outcome, which is the baby, they never really care about the journey or process that youre gg thru. #FTM

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hey sorry you had to go thru this. I had similar issues like you too. And now baby is going to be a toddler, there's just sooo much boundaries I have to fix bcos my parenting style is different. It's challenging bcos I'm still staying with my mom and sometimes we get into arguments or just give the cold shoulders to each other. Can't wait to move out. I also thought that your own fam members would be the most helpful, accommodating, understanding and won't pass hurtful or judge-y remarks. I am so wrong. sometimes the person closest to you will hurt you the most. Talk to your close friends or confide to your husband abt your feelings. You need to let it out sometimes, to feel better. I am glad I have a supporting husband and friends who are good listeners. And I always tell myself to forgive whatever and whoever who wasn't there for me when I was new to motherhood. But I won't forget. As a reminder that hopefully when I am older and hv my own grandkids, I won't be like tht. You've got this ok💪

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