My kids got asked yesterday (by a family member visiting us) if they felt more Indian or more Italian...I was so annoyed at that question!! my kids are little and I don't want them to feel they need to be one or the either. How do you respond to people who ask such questions?

you know, i think they may have asked it just like that, and without any intentions or too much thought to it. honestly, i have faced the same growing up in a different place than where my parents originally belonged to, and i was always asked this question. same with my kids now. but we are very okay about it. we tell them that our kids imbibe the values of all the mixed cultures and that we don't really want them to choose between cultures and such. so yes, put a stop to such questions with a positive and polite answer.