My in-laws always bad mouth my parenting style...

Mom, I just need to vent a bit... Why does my mother-in-law always make hurtful comments about everything I do for my child? She always seems to belittle and... well, suggest strange things. For example, from the moment my child was born, I didn't want to swaddle them too tightly. She used to get angry and say I didn't love my child, that their legs would become crooked... When my baby was around 3 or 4 months old, she insisted on giving my baby honey on their lips because she said their lips were dry... I clearly didn't allow it and got angry at her. But she said I was a cruel daughter-in-law and mother, and she would tell other relatives that I'm old-fashioned and weird. Isn't she the old-fashioned one? Now that my child has started eating solid food... she always criticizes the meals I cook. If my child doesn't want to eat, she says, "Well, who would want to eat that, it looks disgusting." Oh, I can't take it anymore...

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My MIL is this kind too. And no matter what she does whether one day she suddenly try to be nice or what, you sure cannot tahan her anyway. If you’re staying w her, move out. If you’re not, just don’t patronise her, just be cordial but don’t make it seem like you need her or her advice, and just be nonchalant about what everything she said. Like just bo heu her bt still respectful. Eventually, she will realise you are not the biggest fan of her advice and reduce interaction. That’s me and my MIL pre pregnancy, and she learn how to stay away. I feel bad la she sometimes ask things like so she can be helpful or contribute but I always make it look like as if I got all things planned out (although I don’t) so there’s no way she can help / engage.

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