Cheating Husband who makes less money than me

Just found out my husband of 8 years has been cheating on me. I'm devastated but more concerned for the kids - they are 3 and 5, and from every study I have read, divorce is one of the worst things that can happen to a child. I can't bear to do this to them but at the same time, I'm not sure I can ever forgive my husband. I am not financially dependent on him (I actually make more money than him). He is still a great father...I really don't know what to do. Please help.

Vô danh

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I'm a child of a broken marriage. While divorce or separation will undoubtedly be a bad thing that can happen to a child, staying and modeling a dysfuntional marriage is far worse. If you think in terms of "I will set/raise the standards that my children will live by" and not allow such a parent figure to prance around with poor behavior, the cycle-- of being cheated on or being a cheater, of being the irresponsible one or the being the one who always picks up after and covers his a**-- will not unconsciously repeat with them when they grow up and have relationships of their own. I'm taking my husband out of the equation because of his grave irresponsibility, but I recognize his rights as the father. Some people may say he didn't cheat, so why? This is my answer:

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Home Random Talk just found out my husband of 8 years has been cheating on me im devastated but more concerned for the kids they are 3 and 5 and from every study i have read divorce is one of the worst things that can happen to a child i cant bear to do this to them but at the same time im not sure i can ever forgive my husband i am not financially dependent on him i actually make more money than him he is still a great fatheri really dont know what to do please help