Comments on baby from in-laws

My in-laws made so much comments on baby when we first visited. Instead of fawning over their grandchild, or asking how are we coping with a newborn, or checking how is my recovery, they just freely commented on baby in front of baby and us things like "the skin so dark", "looks like tomboy", "so skinny", "hair so little" etc. As a new mum, their unnecessary and unkind remarks on my precious baby made me upset and I seriously fear more on the next visits. Any good advice on how we can politely let them know we do mind such comments? I love my baby deeply, I feel defensive to hear these yet helpless because I dunno how to react. *No, ignoring their words is not helpful advice, a real solution is preferred, otherwise this will just be a continuous cycle and worsen my anxiety and stress level each time we visit them* *Update: Many have advised to ignore. We did that, and just as I have expected, these comments continued every time we meet. 🙄

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Sounds like my mil. Omg. My hubby talk to her also no use. Her mouth just cannot stop, need to say if not she will be unhappy and heart attack with all this prolonged unhappiness . Lol In the end I moved further and further away from her... until now we are in 2 different countries . And best still with Covid , I no need to visit her anymore. So no need to hear her nonsense and be controlled by her. But we still call and video conference very often. And I try to say mostly good things about mil in front of hubby. Move far far away. If she stay in west, u move to east, if she stay in east u move to west ...

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