Comments on baby from in-laws

My in-laws made so much comments on baby when we first visited. Instead of fawning over their grandchild, or asking how are we coping with a newborn, or checking how is my recovery, they just freely commented on baby in front of baby and us things like "the skin so dark", "looks like tomboy", "so skinny", "hair so little" etc. As a new mum, their unnecessary and unkind remarks on my precious baby made me upset and I seriously fear more on the next visits. Any good advice on how we can politely let them know we do mind such comments? I love my baby deeply, I feel defensive to hear these yet helpless because I dunno how to react. *No, ignoring their words is not helpful advice, a real solution is preferred, otherwise this will just be a continuous cycle and worsen my anxiety and stress level each time we visit them* *Update: Many have advised to ignore. We did that, and just as I have expected, these comments continued every time we meet. 🙄

Vô danh

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totally with you... stay strong! i would propose 1) bring it up to your husband; seek his concurrent and ask him to stop the comments 2) dont lose your cool which i think is impt for a long term rlship. take the baby, walk away to the kitchen, to the room. hopefully they can sense your avoidance and dislike in such topic/comment 3) i would be frank and tell them that i have no control on how my baby looks. Part of the baby comes from the dad and the family. 4) answer them in a way to say that u love the baby the same, no less, regardless of how they may have judge. ppl usually stop after hearing defensive remark. 5) i tried to be amicable.. but when worst case, just had to tell them directly, stop commenting on the baby and you need them to set a better example as grandparents

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