I am the writer for previous several posts indicating my serious nervous breakdown on the scary fears of contraction and delivery labour pains. My mum in law understood my fears & worried I am having a mental breakdown or severe depression which I am facing seriously lately! I told her directly I may want to go for C-sect with epidural delivery even if my baby is not in breech position. Because I heard from 2 friends that their C-sect's wounds are not really very painful after delivery. If painful, just take painkillers to ease. I don't know how true though. But my mum in law "insisted & psychoed" me to go for normal delivery with epidural. She told me the contraction & actual labour pains were ok to deal with which can be tolerated. But my pain threshold is extremely low. Then she also told me the wound (vagina tear or the cut due to episiotomy) wouldn't hurt as much as the big wound caused by C-sect op. She asked me: "Is it you want to have any excruciating pains from a C-sect wound? And do you know if the wound is not cleaned well, then will have infections too? Is that what I want?" She has her own points, makes sense and concerns too. She sounded really upset when I told her my current decision about C-sect with epidural and she told me very FIRMLY twice: "Ok I don't care which delivery method you used as long as my grandchild (gender unknown yet) is safely delivered! I just want to have a healthy grandchild that's all!" What should I do? She really wants me to go by natural delivery badly & maybe I want C-sect because I really don't want to experience contraction, dilation & actual labour pains! Of course I don't mind trying normal delivery with epidural as long as the anesthesia effect can last from contraction pains till full actual delivery (pushing out of baby). Pls advise mummies! Thanks!

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Honestly, what your Mil said is correct. If you choose csec, you will have to be really very careful with your wound. Csec wound is bigger than normal delivery wound. My tolerance level of pain is also very low. But I delivered normally without epidural because I want to try the pain. From the contraction till delivery, it's just like menstruation cramp but is painful abit more. To me, I will advise for normal delivery with epidural if you are really scared. Because csec, you couldn't move around normally and also for quite sometimes you can't carry heavy things. Not to scare you but if you imagine you give birth to a baby of 3++kg, and when it reach 2-3 months the baby weight became 6++kg then you will have difficulties carrying him/her. At the end of the decision is yours. So if you still choosing csec, talk to your mil nicely (: Good luck mummy!

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yes! csec would be more painful after affect.and u have to take care of wound and cant walk much unlike normal.if u dun wan expreince pain just str8 go for normal epidural. i gave birth to my child normal epidural took epidural at 5cm cause of pain but after i took epi everything was woa i could relax sleep and when ure pushing doc will off epidural and trust me the next contraction will come is not the pain is when every cobtraction come u have to push once come and push. is like a game u see u have to relax and when u feel contraction u puuussshhhh... not pain at all..mine was a big bby 1st 3.8 2nd 4.6kg normal birth no tear no pain even after delivery.hope this helps