I am the writer for previous several posts indicating my serious nervous breakdown on the scary fears of contraction and delivery labour pains. My mum in law understood my fears & worried I am having a mental breakdown or severe depression which I am facing seriously lately! I told her directly I may want to go for C-sect with epidural delivery even if my baby is not in breech position. Because I heard from 2 friends that their C-sect's wounds are not really very painful after delivery. If painful, just take painkillers to ease. I don't know how true though. But my mum in law "insisted & psychoed" me to go for normal delivery with epidural. She told me the contraction & actual labour pains were ok to deal with which can be tolerated. But my pain threshold is extremely low. Then she also told me the wound (vagina tear or the cut due to episiotomy) wouldn't hurt as much as the big wound caused by C-sect op. She asked me: "Is it you want to have any excruciating pains from a C-sect wound? And do you know if the wound is not cleaned well, then will have infections too? Is that what I want?" She has her own points, makes sense and concerns too. She sounded really upset when I told her my current decision about C-sect with epidural and she told me very FIRMLY twice: "Ok I don't care which delivery method you used as long as my grandchild (gender unknown yet) is safely delivered! I just want to have a healthy grandchild that's all!" What should I do? She really wants me to go by natural delivery badly & maybe I want C-sect because I really don't want to experience contraction, dilation & actual labour pains! Of course I don't mind trying normal delivery with epidural as long as the anesthesia effect can last from contraction pains till full actual delivery (pushing out of baby). Pls advise mummies! Thanks!

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Hello. Maybe you can try talking nicely to her or ask your hubby to talk to her. I understand old people or MIL tends to ask for normal delivery. I used to have the same problem but choice is ours we got to be firm. As long as delivering baby safely, the methods are not a problem. If baby too big also no choice got to Csec or if the head is too big also need csec. sometimes its not up to us to decide. After all you are the one who deliver a baby and not her. So make your own choice wisely.

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Sorry to ask... do you know the vagina will open till it is big enough for you to push the head out... I didn't use epidural for the first 6 hours then after that use epidural... epidural will help to minimise the contraction by 98% I think compared to the feeling before epidural... I pressed the dose when I feel the pain... second 6hrs I pressed a couple more doses and I slept throughout until my hubby wake me and say doctor is coming... I pressed another dose before they removed the epidural... so the pain came not during pushing but because the head was too big and got stuck... I keep pushing till I depleted all my energy (pain was like menstrual pain where I could not stand l, that kind) and even they do sewing also cannot feel anything as if the bottom has became numb already... so no need to worry about the pain so much... Actually before I go for delivery, the scan already told me he got a big head... but I didn't expect to get stuck and in the end after pushing so much sti