Hi all, I have a few questions that I need advice for. Do you need to mentally prepare yourself for a divorce or just pop the question out one day? If yes, how can you distract yourself from overthinking and keeping it together? I am on the verge of asking for a divorce. My husband has been mentally torturing me whenever we are quarelling and I believe it worsens my psychological health. During the quarrels and arguments he will talk about how screwed up I am with myself in the relationship and why I can get so annoying? The problem is, aren't you supposed to seek affection only from your spouse? But it doesnt seem like it for us- he finds that I am too dependent on him etc, questions why I am restricting him on his interest? I am really very tired of it. I feel that I can take it no longer but I still love him a lot. During the past years I have changed whenever we talk about issues and now, I somehow feel that I am the only one who is making the changes. Whatever or however I change, it will always be insufficient. Please help. Thanks all.

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Aw...i sure hope you feel better soon. It is indeed a traumatic situation you are experiencing. Nevettheless, there are other options available before you head or even consider divorce. For example, as the moms above mentioned counselling. Otheriwse try writting to him instead. Love is a wonderful emotion. The more feelings involved the harder and more frustrated it can cause anyone. There is only so much others can say as we are not in you. Then again, it wont be possible to state your whole story here either. So all i can advise is, the least is you need to know and source out all available options you have before hitting the last straw. Otherwise divorce is never a solution. Take care dear.

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