Struggling with Boundaries

Gosh, the involvement of my mother-in-law in raising my child is CRAZY. While I appreciate her love and concern for her grandchild, I find myself feeling overwhelmed and, dare I say it, a bit suffocated by her constant interference. Don't get me wrong – I understand the importance of family support. However, it seems like every parenting decision I make is scrutinized, and my mother-in-law believes she knows what's best for my child. I cherish the time spent with my little one, and I want to build a strong and nurturing bond with her. But it feels like I'm constantly walking on eggshells, afraid to make a move without the judgment of my mother-in-law. I long for the freedom to explore my own parenting journey, make mistakes, and learn from them, without the constant interference. I've tried having open and honest conversations with my mother-in-law about boundaries, but it seems to fall on deaf ears. I want to foster a harmonious relationship, but I'm not sure how to balance respecting her role as a grandmother while still maintaining my autonomy as a mother.

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I didn’t dare to voice out prepregancy even when my mil was being unreasonable every other day. Once I gave birth, damn I don’t care who you are, if there’s something I don’t like when it comes to my baby, I voice out. This seems to work very well, my mil has been tamed ever since (I just told her off once) and most importantly no more crazy attitudes. Just tahan till you get your own flat, before that, stay firm on having your way because it’s YOUR child. She had her time with her son, don’t let her take away your rights.

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Totally agree with this! Need to be legit firm!