Just a rant

Feeling very emotionally and mentally drained. Been married for almost 8 years and parents in law still dislike me. I tried so many things to make them like me even changing to be more extroverted when i come over their place.. But this time i feel like its too much when they refuse to come over and visit my newborn baby. Im staying at my own parents place and kept getting qns like 'when your PIL coming over to see the baby?' I can only smile, its hard to not feel extra emotional esp postpartum. My husband has asked them before whether there was anything that i did that made them not like me. They just kept saying that my husband changed ever since he married me. Hows that got to do with me? and yea ofc hes gonna change, before he was single with no priorities with all the time in the world. Honestly theyve said and did so many things that have hurt me but i tried not to think about it so much and just forgive but never forget. Tbh if they werent my husb parents, i wouldve just cut them off, im somebody who mind their own business alot and this sort of unresolved issue just bother me alot. My husb has said that we should just ignore and see them during special occasions only just to run away from the negative vibes, how i wish it could be as simple as that for me. It seems like no matter what i do, ill always be the evil daughter in law, to the extent that my SIL and BIL are always making snide comments whenever i come around. It comes to the point where i even thought of divorce bc i was thinking what if my marriage is not blessed just bc my PIL dont like me? 😢 Yea just ranting here hopefully someone has an advice for me or anyone who have been thru this before 😢

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I had an almost same issue as u. To be honest u are more luckily den me. As u r not staying with thm. And don’t need to face thm everyday! I’m staying with PIL and got to see their colour everyday! This kind of in laws, u don’t have to be dishearten. To be honest, do u need their help? If don’t need den why bother? Jus be happy that ur husband is with u. And always sides on u. Recently, I also had my newborn. Thy also don’t even bother to look at her. Can u believe it, we are staying in the same house. Thy din see at all! Not only that, my mom came over n stay at my house help to look after my elder one. While I went for hospital to give birth. PIL don’t even bother to say hello to my mom. U know wat thy do? Thy disappear themselves. Both went out very early in the morning and come bck home late night. I so wish I can be like u. Move out from thm. Haiz..!

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omg actually ur right, i cant even imagine if i stay in the same hse as my PIL.. i dont need their help, thats true. idk, maybe i just hate it when ppl just find reasons to hate on me when ive done ntg to deserve it you know. but ya im considered abit more lucky than you sis i feel, idk if i can stay quiet if im in the same house and they dont even acknowledge my baby's existence and worse dont even bother to say hello to my mum 😱 i hope some day youll be able to move out! everyday in the same house have to face this sort of PIL, wahhh i rlly cannot. everyday heart pain