💡 Ask the Expert👩‍⚕️: All About Postpartum Depression

How do you measure how strong a bond is? There is no universal measurement for love and everyone has their own love language. You do sound like you are feeling stressed due to breastfeeding and that is normal because breastfeeding itself is not easy. It takes a lot of determination and sacrifice. And with you doing that, how are you a bad mother? Please give yourself credit for being a milk machine. Babies have stages where they prefer to stick to particular people. It can be a short period or a long period. It is like a relay, and the baton will be passed on.

Don't focus on going through the same thing. Given that you have experience, you ought to know what would happen. Perhaps you and your husband can talk through what happened back then and see how you both can work together this round. Team work is essential and communication is key.

I'm glad that you actually came to terms with that. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. Please do not just leave the comment here, but share it with your wife. Back then, you were also a new father and it was a stressful and overwhelming period for you 2. Marriage needs teamwork and lots of communication. And both of you are learning a new chapter in life together.

Especially for mothers, we give so much that we lose ourselves without knowing it. Because there is no limit to a mother's love, we just keep giving. And that is why it is important to make time for yourself. Self care is an important form of self love. And when we love ourselves, we can give our child the best of us, and not what's left of us.

It is very courageous of you to seek help. But know where you seek help, because not everyone is able to help you. As simple as joining mother community online, there are many channels for you to reach out to. There will always be people who judge, so don't mind them. You cannot control what they say, but you can control what you see. If the online community is too big for you, start small. Talk to friends or peers.

This sounds like a situational issue. Because you have limitations while your husband don't. Would it be possible to talk to him about compromising? Him heading out lesser and you getting your me-time? It is a common frustration and you would need to communicate with your husband on this matter.

Congrats! Not everyone goes through the same path. But having read so much, I hope you get the message that you are not alone on this. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy ahead.

Depression does not mean that you cannot laugh or smile. But please, reach out to someone on this soon. You are not alone in this journey. There are many ways to help you cope during this tough times.

Support can be provided in many ways. However, I do feel that support can be much more focused after birth, especially in the newborn period. She could be overwhelmed then and that's when she will need all the help she can get. Talk to her and listen to her concerns so you can offer her the help she needs. As for now, I believe she would needing a lot of sleep