Any mummies here who used to be working full time converted to stay at home mom and is feeling a little lonely, sometimes stressful and feeling guilty of not being able to earn on their own? I don't wanna be selfish, my kids needs me but each time I wanna spend, I gotta ask husband. Not that he minds, I do. I feel guilty. I used to be very independent. Spending on my own, never asked him for money. He prefers me to look after the kids myself. He said, "if you don't, I'll quit and look after them while you work"

Yes, I went through the same. It really become crazy if you have been financially independent and also has the nature of not asking one from your husband. I know how much heart it takes to be financially dependant and remain sane. And, worse are the times when you have fought with your husband. All through my life, I have never ever felt easy asking money even from my father and suddenly you have to ask every penny from someone. I think if your husband is that adamant of you not taking up a job, tell him to straightaway deposit an amount that you fix in your account, so that you don't have to ask for money. Also, you can engage yourself in something creative, wherever your interest lies. Doing something even if won't fetch you money initially would give you feeling of self-worth. Though, you still are doing so much which go unnoticed and is not paid for in terms of money but you know how our mind works. Our mind always wants to do something creative.