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Getting rid of mommy’s germaphobic

It is my first pregnancy. Before I learn anything about baby caring, I need to learn about hand washing and sterilising things. After my baby was newly born, daddy was tested Covid Positive, although it was proven as false positive afterward , the week of quarantine with baby has brought the germaphobic habits and thoughts of mine eg wiping clean and sterilising the house. Soon, the fear of Covid develops into the fear of germs, I am scared of carrying baby after cooking, as I am worry that the fluid from meat, fish and raw vegetable might contaminate my clothes and baby will take in the germs as she is still breastfeeding. After I clean the toilet, I feel not clean to handle baby if I don’t bathe and clean myself thoroughly. I am feeling guilty if I don’t wash my hands before handing baby & her surroundings(eg toys, bed, clothes). In reality, baby needs mommy. I am the only one taking care of baby. If I wake up early to cook and clean, baby might wake up anytime. They cannot wait till I finish cooking/cleaning toilet, then shower myself before putting on the new clothes. Even if I don’t shower and just change my clothes, baby will cry and fall down from bed. 😭😭😭 Sometimes I am even scared to touch any surfaces myself as I am worry that baby will be exposed to Covid or any germs that harm her. When I fly back home, I am worry when my family carry baby without washing their hands. The fear of this invisible things has caused me a lots of worry. Is there any similar experiences from mommy? How do you get rid of the habits and fears when the news about COVID is always lingering although it is already declared as endemic? I need to get rid of my own germaphobe before my baby is grown up enough to understand and develop germiphobic habits like me. If you have seek for professional advice, your referral of the doctor or psychologist is very appreciated. #advicepls #firstmom

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Any good response for "wah you've gained weight"?

I'm not one of those lucky mums who can shed off the post-pregnancy weight gain. Post-partum depression hit me hard, so staying fit on top of taking care of my baby without helper or family's help just wasn't on top of my list. Just went to a wedding and the first thing my inconsiderate aunt and uncle who haven't seen me in years since covid was "wow you've put on weight", in front of other relatives. It was embarrassing and hurtful. It's not something that can just be ignored and then move on from. I was self conscious throughout the wedding dinner, and I am already dreading upcoming Christmas and Chinese New Year family gatherings where they may be more of such unnecessary comments from others. Realistically I will not be able to go back to pre-pregnancy weight in time. So...***Are there any sassy witty mums here with a good, helpful comeback?*** A response that lets them know it's not okay to shoot their mouths off this way?? I don't wish to just smile and nod and say "ya lor", then feel embarrassed and self-conscious throughout the gathering. If your advice is to ignore, no that's not practical. If a person says to you "Hey you've gained weight!", you can't just treat the person as invisible and pretend you didn't hear. You can't just stay silent, you also can't ignore and just walk off. To those advising to slim down by doing exercises or to face the truth, yeah sure don't worry, am in the process, but that's not the reply suggestion I'm seeking here. Thank you in advance for those with practical advice (instead of "just ignore")!!!!!🤗

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