wife emotional healing

my wife shunned me, wanted to move away. it's because I hurt emotionally with hurtful and cynical words . emotional abuse. i did not watch her heart. this is the fifth year of marriage. both re-married with kids of former. we just start to see counselling. and i know it is not an immediate remedy. i realised my errors and trying to correct. she saw the changes. she said it's now her problem. she cannot forget my abuse to her. how can i speed up her recovery? i am also suffering and depressed becos of her rejection. before this we are very loving. seek yr advice. thank you