When you have a big fight with your husband, do you prefer to be separated for a while to cooling down the situation, or asked for third person to be your mediator?

I personally feel that you should let things cool and then approach the issue with a fresh perspective. Involving a third person has its own risks, unless things are really, really bad between the two of you. Besides, the third person may come with his or her own agenda. So it's best to sort out your differences on your own.