Husband's Text With Friends

What's your opinion on your husband texting his friends about some random strangers he saw on the street? (when you're pregnant and stuck at home) with descriptions like 'saw a solid chiobu wearing sleeveless tank top and tight pants' and when the friend commented that 'can see but can't touch', your husband agrees. Below is the screenshot of the conversation. Orange is the husband. The rest are 2 of his frens. Update: His replies were expected. Says it's casual thrash talk n this is the way they talk. It's been rough 2 days of grilling him. Now he admits he is an idiot for typing this. Should I still trust him? I usually don't check his phone. It's due to a few reasons this time that I did and i didn't regret it a single bit. If he has nothing to hide. He didnt get angry n defensive at all and allows me to look at his phone every now and then. Perhaps I don't like to live in a delusional state and believe my life is perfect and fairytale like. I'm towards the belief that husbands and wives should be opened about everything. Not about no trust. Especially the divorce and number of cheating spouses rate is so high now. Update 2: Found out he also badmouthed about myself and my parents all these while when my parents have been nice to him. He also did not show any displeased about them so there wasn't any hint nor did he mentioned abt any unhappiness to me at all. He said he has regretted his action and exited and deleted the toxic chat group. He also said he will focus on me n the baby after this episode. I hope this is the end of the horrible chapter. Everything has deeply affected me so much. Having to believe everything was perfect and all but was hit with the very ugly truth.

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Hi thanks for sharing. I’m someone of low self esteem/ insecure as well so can totally uds how you’re feeling. At the start of our rls, it was difficult for both parties because I never agree with such catcalling/ superficial discussions of other women. Like what you wanna do sia with all these “dirty” thinkings. And pornography is a huge taboo for me. I got even more paranoid when he and friends visited nightclubs FML. Just so upsetting. We communicated a lot and tried our best to understand our diff emotions towards diff issues. It took us years to come to where we are now. And yes like your husband, I can anytime use his phone or computer and passwords to all things. I’m thankful for his efforts for easing my insecurities like no more pubs or clubs or unnecessary looking and “trash talking” on other strangers. Now with this long CB, I find it a great opportunity for us to bond tgt and have more open communication with one another.

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Good for you! I hope it stays this way for you especially given we belonged to the slightly over thinking and lower self esteem group. The kind of thoughts that run through every other day is like causing so much unneccesary stress. Like why can't it be a auto and mutual thing without us having to even set the rules even in the first place.

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