Situations

My in-laws never ask that I do housework for them, my parents taught me to do for them to show them that I am brought up well. But sometimes things happen and you gradually lose respect for them. So right now, I only clean up my room, wash me and husband laundry, and have made myself explicitly clear that my responsibilities will only be towards my husband, because it gets complicated once I start caring for everyone and they take it for granted. It's not that I dont want to respect them, but their actions and words made me lose it. Our relationship now is more like tenants than family, which I prefer to keep it that way, it makes me handle my emotions easier, I dont want to give so much effort and something really tiny happens, I get the backlash out of nowhere even though I'm not involved at all.