Those staying with in laws and with helper. How is their relationship? My mil is those traditional type and very hard to get along with. Previous helpers all left becos of her. My r/s with mil isn't that good either and will often quarrel becos of helper. We try not to communicate if possible. Trying to keep my sanity here.

My mil doesn't like all my helpers except the v first one who finished contract 5 years ago to go home. Mil will complain practically Everything and anything about the rest of the helpers. We found the current helper good though she has her weaknesses too. To min our conflicts, I had to ask my hub to talk to her on how difficult it is to find a suitable helper and we had changed 3 helpers in a year just because she dislikes this one and that one. Mil has her expectations and I tried as much as possible not to add on to my hub's stress and think positively. You are not alone, just have to manage your mil.