My husband blames me that i do not know my role and responsibilities as a wife just cos ............

Really need to talk with your husband as this issue seems small, but its actually big. Once a son is married, his upmost priority is his wife and then his mother. Even stated in islam. And man your mil need to elt go of his MARRIED son. He has his own responsibility not just her. Hang in there babe i know how it feels! If he question your role as a wife, question back his role as a husband. His responsibility towards his wife and baby. And stop playing the husband card whereby the wife need to always bow to the husband like a slave