Mummy symptoms

Hi Mums, my wife is aged 33 & in her 12th week. She is already experiencing, bloating, bad appetite, leg cramps, neck aches, sleepless nights & frequent urination ever since 6th week. Is this normal? When we check with the doc, he says nothing can be done & symptoms differ from people to people. Wanted to bring her for a neck & shoulder massage but many places would not do it. Older folks even told us that I should not give her a massage as we do not know by pressing the wrong nerve, it might cause miscarriages. We are even told, we cannot use heat plaster. I am really at a lost on what we should do. It pains me to be not able to do anything when my wife is complaining. Sometimes, I even ask myself if we should have been more careful. (We however do love kids) Regards, A lost Daddy to be..