Acclimating to Infant Care

Hi mummies! My heart’s been aching a little recently so I just wanna talk to you guys for a bit. The past two weeks, my 5mo boy has been going to IFC and he’s been adjusting really well. He constantly does this squeal and excited flail of his hands combo whenever his teachers opened the door to receive him. Which initially puts my heart a little more at ease for when I resume work. (I took an additional 2 months of no-pay leave because my heart can’t let go. There is also absolutely no one capable enough in regard to caring for a baby for us to rely on for help, thus IfC.) However today, he showed the same eagerness to play and start his day but..when his teachers said “bye bye mommy!” and turned to bring him in for his morning shower, he immediately shouted and cried. I was still filling up the daily paperwork to handover my son, but I could hear his distinct cries even as the door closed. It tugged at my heart really badly. At the same time I’m also confused and begin to question all my decisions that I thought was the best for him prior. I definitely am not faulting the teachers at the moment, as I can see so far they have been taking great care of my boy. Even so that I didn’t tell them anything, but their observations on his daily habits and character is extremely spot on. (I was pretty impressed. Plus the past two weeks my son has been excited for school as I mentioned.) It’s just hearing my son cries somehow put my mind into reset mode, as I can’t do anything at the point of time. I’m not sure if he’s in pain, but I highly doubt it as he was fine literally a minute ago. I’m also not sure if there’s any sudden traumas, as I can’t recall anything out of the ordinary in his daily behaviour up until this morning. I called my husband as I stood there refusing to leave. He did mentioned to me something regarding separation anxiety, and he feels it’s probably that. Since we’ve been the sole caregivers for the past 5 coming 6 months. I did research as well, and there are articles claiming that babies around this age and older begins to know who’s mom and dad, their surrounding environments. Is it really separation anxiety? I’m not too sure. But all I know is that he’s crying for mom. And I honestly don’t know what to do. We have to work..in order to give our son the best we can for him to grow up. But at the same time, I want to be with him every moment of the day. Especially when he cries. Sigh. Sorry for such a long post mummies, thank you all for listening as I really have no one to talk to besides hubby. #firsttimemom

Tasha Wong

First time momma!

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I feel you, mummy. I had to send my girl to IFC at 3 months old because my company didn’t let me take no pay leave after ML. Now she’s 8m old and starting to show such separation anxiety. She’s okay at drop off, but whenever I pick her up, she always has this very sad expression on her face, teachers also feedback that she cries more often nowadays. Really breaks my heart… I just try my best to ease the anxiety for my girl. Every day at drop off, I’ll hug her tight and tell her “Mama will come back later”. I also play peekaboo with her at home, trying to teach her that although she can’t always see mama, mama will always come back. I believe babies are smarter than we think they are, and teaching them helps :)

Tasha Wong

First time momma!

11mo trước

How sweet! I love interactions like this with our LOs.. these days I find myself having the habit of whispering into his ears as I hold him that mummy will always be with him, never far. I’ll always come for him no matter what. Not sure if he will understand me yet hahahaha but he always give me such angelic smiles right after 🥺

I think you should speak to the teacher to find out what happened. For the peace of your mind cause we will imagine the worst. I took additional 4 months of no pay leave and I’m resuming to working next week. Though my mom will take care of my baby while I’m away, I’m still feeling kind of emotional about leaving my baby. Guess it’s natural for us mom to feel this way.

Yesss definitely separation anxiety. I was crying badly the first week of sending my baby to IFC. And really breaks my heart whenever i see him cry because it at drop off or pickup. Made me feel like im a bad mom for sending my baby off 😣😔 I totally understand how you feel mummy. But we got this!! Itll take a while to adapt and get used to it. This is the best that we can do.

Tasha Wong

First time momma!

11mo trước

Thank you for understanding what I’m going through! Makes me feel less alone!

Which ifc u enrol him mummy if i may know? Im interested as you mentioned the observation on him is spot on! I also have this worry. Yet to send my 5months old to ifc but it will be in few weeks time😭😭

Tasha Wong

First time momma!

11mo trước

I’m currently sending my boy to Camelot! Specifically the one at Serangoon (:

give them some time to adapt to new faces and environment. they do have their good and bad days too. jia you

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