I’m confused

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Hi moms I may need help? I have an 18 months toddler and basically, I’ve been solo parenting all my toddler’s life bcos my husband was incapable and refuse to be capable. I’ve been cheated on when I was pregnant, fell into ppd and now just surviving my days with my toddler making sure I don’t die before my toddler. ANW! Life has been so difficult since I got married to him bcos my mom didn’t liked him and I got forced into marrying him but it has happened and I’m way past that. Except that I find myself dreaming about my previous ex and read up old convos just to make myself feel better. Technically, in my head that’s cheating. But it’s so weird that I can relive the entire happiness with my ex and feel like I’m myself back then. I don’t know if motherhood changed me but idk how to get over this especially since my ex has recently been engaged. And my husband doesn’t treat both my child and I like family. I know I’m alone but idk? I’m only alive bcos of my child. The child my husband never wanted. #pleasehelp #firsttimemom #respect_post #firstbaby

Oreo Cheerios · Answer

What’s the point of staying in an unhappy marriage? If you are capable of solo parenting now, I’m sure you are capable of solo parenting in future. Put yourself first. To raise a happy child, you have to be happy first. There’s a lot of support around you can sought to if needed.. for both yourself & your child.

Vô danh · Answer

😢 oh no, poor mummy... If you arent happy with him anymore, then divorce him and claim child support... I never believe in staying in a bad marriage for the children, especially if the other party does not care about the children in the first place... If he already treats you and your child poorly now, he will definitely treat you even worse in future. Who knows, maybe next time he might be the one initiating divorce when he manage to find your weakness and then take your child custody away... Then it's prolly worse for your child and you at that time... Since he has cheated on you, as long as you have evidence, it is already grounds for divorce. Another supporting reason can be lack of quality time spent with kids... Remember to keep evidences of these. If anything happens, you will at least have an advantage over him for child custody... For now, maybe look for some mummy groups on WhatsApp or telegram etc. Its good you made the first step here... Make some mummy friends in the chat, I'm sure the other mummies will help you whenever you have any problems and at least you got people to talk to. You might even make good friends with them and your toddler can be good friends with theirs as well. It will be better for your mental health if you have friends to talk to and help you... I feel sad about your situation, even your mum is not helping you. Maybe try communicating more with your mum and let her understand your situation?