maternity leave ending soon... but i dont want MIL to take care of my baby

Hi Moms... I dont know what to do. My maternity leave is ending soon, and I will have to go back to work. Initially, I was set on putting my baby in daycare while I'm at the office. However, MIL wants to take care of my baby.... To be honest, after seeing what she did with my sister-in-law's daughter, I can't trust her. My mother-in-law was once caught giving a banana to the baby, who was only 4 MONTHS OLD at the time. Even when caught, she didn't think it was wrong... she said, "What's wrong with giving a banana? It was mashed and just a little bit." Besides that, she would secretly take the baby out even though she had been told not to. Although she has apologized, I still can't trust her. But my husband says I'm being mean if I don't let her take care of our baby, and that I should give her a chance. We've had big arguments about this with no clear resolution. I'm out of ideas on how to keep my mother-in-law from taking care of my baby............. please help :(

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Totally understand the amount of stress you are in. To be honest, I feel that your husband should put you and baby first as you are now a family. In an ideal situation, he should be concerned with how you are feeling as a mother and make sure you are in optimal health mentally and physically so that you can continue to care for your baby. Adding the stress of mother in law is not helping. I feel your husband should man up and speak up for you and his family. Not just adhere to what his mum wants. All the best.

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