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Mine is totally removed from the shopping and research process as well, but he helps with most of the housework and is very supportive of my health. I think some guys just are uninterested in shopping or is just clueless on the products needed; he just randomly chirps in after work and be like "oh my colleague says we need a breast pump his wife use medela and its good." "oh my colleague says got those prams you can carry into the car you know" lol I'll probably just do my own research and run through the final shopping list and budget with him. If you're feeling frustrated you should let him know! I know my hubs will try to help out with research and shopping if I ask him to but knowing him his heart won't be in it (at least not until like the month before EDD when he'll be like what else do we need do we have everything what do we have to do). I'll rather manage it myself for now.
My husband don’t shop apart from groceries (I do all the clothings/furniture shopping) so I don’t really expect him to be shopping for bb stuffs (especially when we are both first time parents) but I have been asking him for his opinions like “is this cute, is this pretty, do you think this is useful etc” so recently he sort of started to shop online for bb’s clothings on his own then he’ll go like “look I bought this cute right” which I think is a good start. So don’t stress yourself out, some guys just don’t have interest in shopping or like my husband, afraid to get the wrong stuffs. Try sharing with him bit by bit on the things you would like to get. 😊
My husband does all the chores now and company me for gynae visits. He really take good care of me. Baby items we are getting hand me downs from friends to reduce expenses. The remaining items that need to be purchased we will do together. This will minimize a lot of decisions needed to be made for baby stuff. For baby room I leave to him to arrange and design as he is taking care of new home renovation also. I will give him suggestions or tell him anything specific I want. But even if he only takes care of chores and gynae visits, I’m already very grateful as that is the most important thing for me - cleanliness in house.
I think it depends. My husband was never the type to care about the products we use at home and finds shopping troublesome. He only requested that I buy some baby clothes with I love daddy printed on it lol. He's also very clueless about what kind of products a baby need and is more focused on his work than researching about the baby needs. But he did most of the housework now and accompany me for visits to doctors and showed extra care to me this period. I felt that it's enough on his part and don't mind at all.
My hub did quite alot. Household chores, cooking, gynae visits, finance and researching on baby stuff. I will recommend him some items first frm what I know frm friends, like uv steriliser, car seat, stroller etc and he'll help to compare prices between different online sites and shops. We decide tgt. Rearranging baby room is mostly me too as I'm very particular abt the decor but he helped with moving stuff ard.
Its normal.. my hubby apart from cooking for mi during his free time when i was preggy.. doesnt really do much or even shop for baby stuff.. the clothes we bought were mostly done by mi n my sis..i have to say the two wks after i delivered, he totally changed.. did alot of washing, changing diapers and etc.. i guess guys are abit diff from we ladies...
Mine is the same, but by helping out doing chores is already a big help, some of my friends husband don’t even bother to help to lessen the burden of the pregnant wife. If you are feeling frustrated you may discuss with him, probably he has no clue on what to search for bb items.
try talking to ur husband and explain that u may need more help in those areas. however, i guess we also need to be understanding that he could be feeling very tired himself, having to work and do all the housework by himself.:)
Talk to him Plan out and discuss options with him Make decisions together Try that…. Good luck mummy !