full month

Omg god bless you . I'm staying at my parents house . My mom is helping me with my confinement . My in laws come every once a week . I have no issues of them coming but everytime my mil come she talk so loud and so chor lor those kind . Than I told her to talk softer and more wen rou more gentle than she say my baby is a boy not a girl why must talk gentle . I said I dunwan him to grow up become so chor lor talk also chor lor . I want him to talk proper english proper chinese and not those baby talk like "nen nen " milk . Cause it happen to my daughter , the therapist said talk proper to them dun use baby language . Got to give them a habit and a good example for them to follow . And she keep saying my baby need to drink water cause milk heaty than the eye keep come out the yellow eye s*** thingy . But doctor advice not to give water so young . Tt I understand now he only few weeks old definitely I'm not giving him water . So I told my mil say that doctor said cannot give water and wha

I did told my husband . But he and his mother so scared ppl say them . And all he think of is get it over and done with . At least 1 year I'm more than happy too . Baby now so small still . I insist 100 days but he said if 100 days his uncle and other ppl wont come or whatever and wont receive red packet . I'm not working , he have been supporting financially he said its painful . Yes I understand I feel bad that I could not help financially now but I think for my baby . How do I make guys understand . When I said I'm the mother I'm the one who give birth to him , he said so only I can make decision only ? So baby belong to me only ?I'm too stress over this whole thing

1 year old best . I wanted 100 days but he got his stupid biggest uncle(which I dun give a damn ) but he n his mother give a damn of what his relatives will say . They are those super Chinese type who must follow chinese custom etc . Which who even follow all this now . I did told him I'm the mother I make final decision , I said I'm the one who give birth to him ,I get final say and ppl got to respect my decision whether isit elderly or who . And he said so he as the father cannot make decision for our baby isit . He said I was selfish want baby all to myself . How tell me how . I'm so stresssssss

I did but he and his mom only cared of what other ppl will say and he want the red packets . He said just get it over n done with n they wont disturb anymore . But tts not the thing . I cared for my baby ,he havent get 2nd jab and by than 1 month I just finish my confinement i still havent fully recover n clean up myself . Most important is baby , later ppl start carry or touch or someone sick than start pass bacteria and germs . I think of all this I feel I as a mother I'm so useless i cant protect my baby ,i feel i as the mother I cant make final say I got no power over my own kid . His idea was to put him in the pram and cover . So ppl see he sleeping wont disturb only open n see wont carry . But baby is unpredictable ma, what if that timing and so noisy n ppl keep open up the pram or he hungry than he awake than when ppl see he awake they start carrying . Than when one start to carry all start to carry . He nv think of this .

I feel it's better 100 days or 1 year when they get their 3 jabs all and when their immune is stronger . Its stressful for them too when ppl keep carry carry carry when they so young . And ppl body carry germs and bacteria . But oh well .