hi all, im new here.. i have some qns regards to my 26 months.. is it a must to discipline ur child to really listen to ur every word?? my 26 month cant speak full language yet.. he only say 'what is this' best.. example: last weekend we having staycation with family and he's been getting into fights with the youngest cousin.. he will cry without stopping when i said no to him.. i dont really beat him but last weekend, i beat him the most which i really dont want to.. i seldom use cane too.. and when the youngest cousin wants to play his scooter, he defend and cry again, but the youngest cousin also got wrong as she snatch while my son is holding it.. can someone tell me how old does they understand what we saying? currently, im preg with 2nd child @ 26 weeks.. im afraid i will breakdown if he wont stop crying.. he doesnt know how to stop, he just go on and on.. thanks.. And to add: recently i m super stressful about finance.. i take back home less than 1.4k.. i m going to change job but is until end of the year then can change as im expecting now.. i keep on feeling to stop work and stay home with my tod until i give birth.. but i cant.. i dont know what is wrong with me recently.. i feel like breaking down but no one understand.. they only will say is my own fault..

I can understand how traumatized u must feel right now. Beating ur kid won't help you at all. Notice that I said that it won't help You. We moms are a different breed. It kills us if we resort to beating bcoz we know deep inside that the problem is within us and not in them. Kids response to everything in crying only. I strongly feel that discipline mostly involves shifting their focus towards the right rather than beating them as they dont understand why they are being beaten. Humans are not programmed to respond to beating in a learning manner. For eg.a husband who beats his wife into submission is only making it difficult for her to love him, respect him and show submission out of love to him. She fears for her life and his irrational behavior that's why she quietly shows an attitude of submission. The day it goes beyond her tolerance,she will give it to him even worse than what he did. The same with kids...they will never understand why that action was so wrong if u beat them. Hence counseling comes in. Try speaking to child counselor for help on the constant crying. Maybe he's crying for attention or that he feels that only by crying he can get what he wants. A counselor can outline steps to deal correctly with ur kid. Regards to ur work and feelings of inadequacy...pls remember that such feeling do come in pregnancy. Ur hormones r in a toss. Plus it's the environment u r living in. If u can then please take a break from work but let this be a decision that u take after weighing out options wit ur husband. Don't feel that by ur not working u will be useless or no one will respect you. Your children will thank u someday for giving them that time and sacrifice. Please remember that it's the world's portrayal that only women who multitask are best. Our body is created to do one task at a time. When u multitask, You are the one who crash and burns. Others around you may call u superwoman. But it's these same ones who raise u to that high pedestal and when u fail in even one things these same push u down. So ask yourself...do u want to be there for your kids or do u want to be the superwoman everyone wants u to be. In this stage of pregnancy pls take care of ur mental state as ur newborn will be as cranky as u are and I'm sure u don't want that