I feel like a bad mom.

I’m a FTM. My baby is 7.5mo. I see lots of mummies in my EDD group discussing about enrichment classes, sending to school, sleep training and feedings. My case… I don’t follow anything nor do I train my LO. Both my husband and I only intend to send LO to PG at 24mo. She wakes up everyday at around 9/10am to drink a bottle then back to sleep till 1/2pm. I don’t sleep train her, so if she wants to sleep, I will make her sleep. If she doesn’t, then she can play her toys. Her usual wake time is 2 hours and the last wake time is around 3-4 hours. She usually sleeps at 9/10pm but will wake up at 12am, then she will roll with us till 1-2am. I tried BLW with her but she has no interest, she just keeps opening her mouth while looking at me so I switch back to traditional weaning. I only feed her porridge, purées, water and occasionally fruits. Whenever I see mummies cooking nice foods for their LO, I feel like I’m not doing well enough compared to other mummies.. 😣 Whenever mummies talked about enrichment classes or school, I’ll be full of ??? I feel like I’m not doing a good job haiz 😔 Is it wrong to follow baby’s pace? #advicepls #firstbaby #1stimemom

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not easy being a FTM. I took care of my baby till 10months then go ifc. I just customise what is suitable for my baby in his sleep schedule. For food,I used traditional feeding coz my baby is super active n I cannot manage the food mess...so I don follow BLW... people gave alot advises to me but when I do it,it actually not suitable for my baby.. thereafter I learned to pace with my baby. Every baby is gifted and different from each other, I also learned that I shall not compare them to others. Also I shall not compare my motherhood with others... They might be facing other issues which we don know as well. Jiayou mummy!!

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I agree it’s not easy 😣 I just felt like I’m not doing enough and I’m boring my LO out because mummy didn’t arrange anything for her… 🥲 Thank you so much ❤️