Mums shoulder the heavy lifting in parenthood?

I used to think that both men & women should be equal partners in the parenthood journey. Aside from not being able to give birth and breastfeed there should be nothing men can’t do as well right? Wrong! From conversations with friends and now my personal experience, I realized that men have it easier being a parent. While women go through the body changes & pain of getting pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding & trying to get back in shape & navigating challenges of being a new parent, men still want to have their own “me” time after becoming a parent and usually does only the playtimes with LO while washing their hands off other duties I.e: nappy changes, dunno what goes on in a diaper bag, dunno what LO needs at different stages, leave it to the wives to manage the maid etc. The only difference is the mothers tend to “suck it up” and find out how to navigate being a new parent while men just conveniently take it for granted that their wives will take care of such issues. In this day & age where both parents are working why do mothers get to do the lion share of parenthood? Is it me or do you feel the same as well?

Vô danh

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While I'm the primary caregiver of our 3YO, I do get plenty of me time. I feel like I go out to meet my friends more than he does. He is still hands on with our girl - playing with her etc, although we stopped letting daddy do bath times and more intimate stuff as we want to teach her about privacy. Other than that, hubs is the more patient one out of the both of us, meaning he is the one that coax her to sleep when I can't do it and carries her when we are out. On top of that, he is the one that works more hours a weeks than I do. I guess it's just how you work out the arrangement.

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