Mums shoulder the heavy lifting in parenthood?

I used to think that both men & women should be equal partners in the parenthood journey. Aside from not being able to give birth and breastfeed there should be nothing men can’t do as well right? Wrong! From conversations with friends and now my personal experience, I realized that men have it easier being a parent. While women go through the body changes & pain of getting pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding & trying to get back in shape & navigating challenges of being a new parent, men still want to have their own “me” time after becoming a parent and usually does only the playtimes with LO while washing their hands off other duties I.e: nappy changes, dunno what goes on in a diaper bag, dunno what LO needs at different stages, leave it to the wives to manage the maid etc. The only difference is the mothers tend to “suck it up” and find out how to navigate being a new parent while men just conveniently take it for granted that their wives will take care of such issues. In this day & age where both parents are working why do mothers get to do the lion share of parenthood? Is it me or do you feel the same as well?