My Win-Win Solution
1) What was his reason to go back home? he miss his parents? Maybe can suggest he bring the kids to see his MIL, while you rest at home. win-win!
2) Given the high conflict situation, i think he meant he don't want to be affected at work and might even lose his job. (trust me no one like going out of the house feeling angry)
Maybe set aside 30 minutes a day to talk? No HP or anything! win-win
3)Also he expected me to keep house spank and clean, preparing dinner on top of caring for our. Is certainly tiring to clean the house, maybe can consider hiring part time helper once a week?
Both of you can get some rest and won't be so easily irritable! win-win, pocket lose a bit.
3) With all those requirements to fulfil, he expect me to be loving and send him "love" message every day. When I try to explain to him, he will start comparing me with his friends' -> He needs a bit of love ;)
Does he reply to your lovey dovey message? If he doesn't then tell him he has to do it too ;) win-win!
4) I don't feel love at all from him or respect by his family and start thinking if I should get a job and start planning my divorce with him as he only use me as a helper. -> Yes you should consider getting a job but don't jump into divorce. With the passage of time, things will improve. Anyway the longer the marriage the more you can get from him. ! win-win
5) However, I am concern for my kids as they are still so young. What should I do? -> Read "Putting Children First - Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Child Thrive Through Divorce if it ever comes to that. ! Win-Win
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