I really need some advice. Few days before giving birth to my LO, my husband asked me to abort just because he say he does not have money to pay and find it very stressful etc. But now, I've given birth and still on confinement, to be counted as those unlucky ones, I've infections, fever etc. Even after knowing I'm having infections, fever, etc, my husband doesn't even give a damn and even ask me to go work to earn my own medical bill. I really find this marriage hopeless as he also doesn't show any respect to my parents and me. Now that I've given birth, I have a feeling if I were to mention divorce or anything, he gonna be snatching my LO from me. What should I do? He's not a Singaporean, but my LO is. And he intend to bring my LO back to his country and never comes back if I refuse to let my LO to even go back once. Upon hearing this, as a mum, how would I even dare to let my LO go back for just even once? What should I do?

I’m really sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I feel that having a child may be an intimidating change for some, your husband is definitely not handling it well. I suspect he is too stressed over the prospect of being a father, but only state finances as the main problem. I would propose having a chat with him to try to work the finances out. It is no doubt a legitimate source of stress as bringing up a child can be very expensive. Lifestyle changes could be made to help ease the burden. I would also propose marriage counselling or some form of counselling if you and your husband is open to the idea. This may help tackle any other underlying concerns he may be having, and help to see if what could be done to make your marriage work. Perhaps you can consider these centres who have professionals from different nationalities, such that your husband may feel more comfortable: http://www.thecounsellingplace.com/ http://www.sacac.sg/ http://www.alliancecounselling.com.sg/about-us/ *big hugs* I wish you all the best and do take care of yourself!!