I really feel irritated when something is not done my way and the peace in my family gets disrupted. How do I control this obsessive behavior?

Okay, may I ask you if you are hundred percent in everything you do? The reason I say so is that we each have our own perspectives, right? And you too understand it, which is why you're worried that you're obsessing too much. Why not let others take some of the decisions and responsibilities and use the time and effort to do things you enjoy? It will help you de-stress, and will also keep you from worrying too much. And hey, even if things are not always your way, think that others too need a chance to get things done their way (even if sometimes) ;)